33:49

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓاْ إِذَا نَكَحۡتُمُ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتِ ثُمَّ طَلَّقۡتُمُوهُنَّ مِن قَبۡلِ أَن تَمَسُّوهُنَّ فَمَا لَكُمۡ عَلَيۡهِنَّ مِنۡ عِدَّةٖ تَعۡتَدُّونَهَاۖ فَمَتِّعُوهُنَّ وَسَرِّحُوهُنَّ سَرَاحٗا جَمِيلٗا

Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo itha nakahtumu almuminati thumma tallaqtumoohunna min qabli an tamassoohunna fama lakum AAalayhinna min AAiddatin taAAtaddoonaha famattiAAoohunna wasarrihoohunna sarahan jameelan

O You who have believed, when you marry believing women and then divorce them before you have touched them, then there is not for you any waiting period to count concerning them. So provide for them and give them a gracious release.

Word by word
  1. يَـٰٓأَيُّهَاO you who believe
  2. ٱلَّذِينَO you who believe
  3. ءَامَنُوٓاْO you who believe
  4. إِذَاWhen
  5. نَكَحۡتُمُyou marry
  6. ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتِbelieving women
  7. ثُمَّand then
  8. طَلَّقۡتُمُوهُنَّdivorce them
  9. مِنbefore
  10. قَبۡلِbefore
  11. أَن[that]
  12. تَمَسُّوهُنَّyou have touched them
  13. فَمَاthen not
  14. لَكُمۡfor you
  15. عَلَيۡهِنَّon them
  16. مِنۡany
  17. عِدَّةٖwaiting period
  18. تَعۡتَدُّونَهَاۖ(to) count concerning them
  19. فَمَتِّعُوهُنَّSo provide for them
  20. وَسَرِّحُوهُنَّand release them
  21. سَرَاحٗا(with) a release
  22. جَمِيلٗاgood
Al-Ahzab · 33:49Madinah

Even when it ends early, end it with grace.

A gift and a beautiful release


A marriage that ends quickly
contract madethen ended early
still owed
a giftaccording to means
a kind releaseno harm, no bitterness
How to part
nothing happened, so nothing owed
part beautifullydignity on the way out

This verse speaks of a marriage contract that ends before the couple lived together. Ibn Kathir says it contains several rulings for scholars. Its heart is the instruction: give her a gift and let her go in a beautiful way. Even a short bond deserves a dignified ending.

A deal falls through, an engagement is called off, a job offer is withdrawn. It is tempting to just go silent and disappear. Ghosting feels easier. The verse asks for a gift and a kind goodbye.

If something ends early, I owe the other person nothing.

How I end things matters to Allah. Even a short bond deserves a kind ending.

Try this

Think of a connection you ended badly. Send one kind, respectful message if it is wise to.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

O you who believe! When you marry believing women, and then divorce them before you have sexual intercourse with them, no 'Iddah have you to count in respect of them. So, give them a present, and set them free in a handsome manner (49)

A Gift and no (Iddah) for Women Who are divorced before Consummation of the Marriage

This Ayah contains many rulings, including the use of the word Nikah for the marriage contract alone. There is no other Ayah in the Qur'an that is clearer than this on this point. It also indicates that it is permissible to divorce a woman before consummating the marriage with her.

الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ

(believing women) this refers to what is usually the case, although there is no difference between a believing (Muslim) woman and a woman of the People of the Book in this regard, according to scholarly consensus. Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, Sa'id bin Al-Musayyib, Al-Hasan Al-Basri, 'Ali bin Al-Husayn Zayn-ul-'Abidin and a group of the Salaf took this Ayah as evidence that divorce cannot occur unless it has been preceded by marriage, because Allah says,

إِذَا نَكَحْتُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ثُمَّ طَلَّقْتُمُوهُنَّ

(When you marry believing women, and then divorce them) The marriage contract here is followed by divorce, which indicates that the divorce cannot be valid if it comes first.

Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "If someone were to say, 'every woman I marry will ipso facto be divorced,' this does not mean anything, because Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا نَكَحْتُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ثُمَّ طَلَّقْتُمُوهُنَّ

(O you who believe! When you marry believing women, and then divorce them....)." It was also reported that Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "Allah said,

إِذَا نَكَحْتُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ثُمَّ طَلَّقْتُمُوهُنَّ

(When you marry believing women, and then divorce them.) Do you not see that divorce comes after marriage?"

A Hadith to the same effect was recorded from 'Amr bin Shu'ayb from his father from his grandfather, who said: "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

لَا طَلَاقَ لِابْنِ آدَمَ فِيمَا لَا يَمْلِكُ

(There is no divorce for the son of Adam with regard to that which he does not possess.) This was recorded by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah. At-Tirmidhi said, "This is a Hasan Hadith, and it is the best thing that has been narrated on this matter." It was also recorded by Ibn Majah from 'Ali and Al-Miswar bin Makhramah, may Allah be pleased with them, that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

لَا طَلَاقَ قَبْلَ نِكَاحٍ

(There is no divorce before marriage.)

فَمَا لَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ عِدَّةٍ تَعْتَدُّونَهَا

(no 'Iddah have you to count in respect of them.) This is a command on which the scholars are agreed, that if a woman is divorced before the marriage is consummated, she does not have to observe the 'Iddah (prescribed period for divorce) and she may go and get married immediately to whomever she wishes. The only exception in this regard is a woman whose husband died, in which case she has to observe an 'Iddah of four months and ten days even if the marriage was not consummated. This is also according to the consensus of the scholars.

فَمَتِّعُوهُنَّ وَسَرِّحُوهُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلًا

(So, give them a present, and set them free in a handsome manner.) The present here refers to something more general than half of the named dowery or a special gift that has not been named. Allah says:

وَإِنْ طَلَّقْتُمُوهُنَّ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ تَمَسُّوهُنَّ وَقَدْ فَرَضْتُمْ لَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً فَنِصْفُ مَا فَرَضْتُمْ

(And if you divorce them before you have touched (had a sexual relation with) them, and you have fixed unto them their due (dowery) then pay half of that)(2:237). And Allah says:

لَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِنْ طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ مَا لَمْ تَمَسُّوهُنَّ أَوْ تَفْرِضُوا لَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً ۚ وَمَتِّعُوهُنَّ عَلَى الْمُوسِعِ قَدَرُهُ وَعَلَى الْمُقْتِرِ قَدَرُهُ مَتَاعًا بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۖ حَقًّا عَلَى الْمُحْسِنِينَ

(There is no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched them, nor fixed unto them their due (dowery). But bestow on them gift, the rich according to his means, and the poor according to his means, a gift of reasonable amount is a duty on the doers of good.)(2:236)

In Sahih Al-Bukhari, it was recorded that Sahl bin Sa'd and Abu Usayd, may Allah be pleased with them both, said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married Umaymah bint Sharahil, and when she entered upon him ﷺ he reached out his hand towards her, and it was as if she did not like that, so he told Abu Usayd to give her two garments." 'Ali bin Abi Talhah reported that Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said "If the dowery had been named, she would not be entitled to more than half, but if the dowery is not been named, he should give her a gift according to his means, and this is the "handsome manner."