33:6

ٱلنَّبِيُّ أَوۡلَىٰ بِٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ مِنۡ أَنفُسِهِمۡۖ وَأَزۡوَٰجُهُۥٓ أُمَّهَٰتُهُمۡۗ وَأُوْلُواْ ٱلۡأَرۡحَامِ بَعۡضُهُمۡ أَوۡلَىٰ بِبَعۡضٖ فِي كِتَٰبِ ٱللَّهِ مِنَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ وَٱلۡمُهَٰجِرِينَ إِلَّآ أَن تَفۡعَلُوٓاْ إِلَىٰٓ أَوۡلِيَآئِكُم مَّعۡرُوفٗاۚ كَانَ ذَٰلِكَ فِي ٱلۡكِتَٰبِ مَسۡطُورٗا

Alnnabiyyu awla bialmumineena min anfusihim waazwajuhu ommahatuhum waoloo alarhami baAAduhum awla bibaAAdin fee kitabi Allahi mina almumineena waalmuhajireena illa an tafAAaloo ila awliyaikum maAAroofan kana thalika fee alkitabi mastooran

The Prophet is more worthy of the believers than themselves, and his wives are [in the position of] their mothers. And those of [blood] relationship are more entitled [to inheritance] in the decree of Allah than the [other] believers and the emigrants, except that you may do to your close associates a kindness [through bequest]. That was in the Book inscribed.

Word by word
  1. ٱلنَّبِيُّThe Prophet
  2. أَوۡلَىٰ(is) closer
  3. بِٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَto the believers
  4. مِنۡthan
  5. أَنفُسِهِمۡۖtheir own selves
  6. وَأَزۡوَٰجُهُۥٓand his wives
  7. أُمَّهَٰتُهُمۡۗ(are) their mothers
  8. وَأُوْلُواْAnd possessors
  9. ٱلۡأَرۡحَامِ(of) relationships
  10. بَعۡضُهُمۡsome of them
  11. أَوۡلَىٰ(are) closer
  12. بِبَعۡضٖto another
  13. فِيin
  14. كِتَٰبِ(the) Decree
  15. ٱللَّهِ(of) Allah
  16. مِنَthan
  17. ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَthe believers
  18. وَٱلۡمُهَٰجِرِينَand the emigrants
  19. إِلَّآexcept
  20. أَنthat
  21. تَفۡعَلُوٓاْyou do
  22. إِلَىٰٓto
  23. أَوۡلِيَآئِكُمyour friends
  24. مَّعۡرُوفٗاۚa kindness
  25. كَانَThat is
  26. ذَٰلِكَThat is
  27. فِيin
  28. ٱلۡكِتَٰبِthe Book
  29. مَسۡطُورٗاwritten
Al-Ahzab · 33:6Madinah

The Prophet ﷺ is closer to believers than they are to themselves.

A love and loyalty above self


Who is closest
the Prophet ﷺmerciful, sincere to us
closer than
your own selfyour own choices
his wivesmothers of believers
What Umar learned
dearer than all but myselfnot yet
dearer than myselfnow, O Umar

Ibn Kathir says the Prophet ﷺ is merciful and sincere towards his Ummah. He said that if a believer left debts or orphans, bring them to me and I will take care of them. Umar learned to love him more than himself.

You do what you feel like, then look for a hadith to back it up. The verse turns that around. The one who cared for orphans and debts he did not owe knows better than your mood.

My own feelings should come first in my choices.

The Prophet ﷺ cared for me more than I care for myself, so his way comes first.

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Tafsir Ibn Kathir

The Prophet is closer to the believers than themselves, and his wives are their mothers. And blood relations among each other have closer personal ties in the decree of Allah than the believers and the Muhajirin, except that you do kindness to those brothers. This has been written in the Book (6)

Loyalty to the Prophet ﷺ; and his wives are Mothers of the Believers

Allah tells us how His Messenger ﷺ is merciful and sincere towards his Ummah, and how he is closer to them than they are to themselves. His judgement or ruling takes precedence over their own choices for themselves, as Allah says:

فَلَا وَرَبِّكَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ حَتَّىٰ يُحَكِّمُوكَ فِيمَا شَجَرَ بَيْنَهُمْ ثُمَّ لَا يَجِدُوا فِي أَنْفُسِهِمْ حَرَجًا مِمَّا قَضَيْتَ وَيُسَلِّمُوا تَسْلِيمًا

(But no, by your Lord, they can have no faith, until they make you judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept with full submission.)(4:65) In the Sahih it says:

وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَا يُؤْمِنُ أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ نَفْسِهِ وَمَالِهِ وَوَلَدِهِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ

(By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, none of you truly believes until I am dearer to him than his own self, his wealth, his children and all the people.) It was also reported in the Sahih that 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, you are dearer to me than everything except myself." He ﷺ said,

لَا، يَا عُمَرُ! حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكَ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ

(No, O 'Umar, not until I am dearer to you than yourself.) 'Umar said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, now you are dearer to me than everything, even myself." He ﷺ said,

الْآنَ يَاعُمَرُ

(Now, O 'Umar [you have got it right].) Allah says in this Ayah:

النَّبِيُّ أَوْلَىٰ بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ مِنْ أَنْفُسِهِمْ ۖ 

(The Prophet is closer to the believers than themselves,) Concerning this Ayah, Al-Bukhari narrated from Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Prophet ﷺ said:

مَا مِنْ مُؤْمِنٍ إِلَّا وَأَنَا أَوْلَى النَّاسِ بِهِ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، اقْرَؤُوا إِنْ شِئْتُمْ: النَّبِيُّ أَوْلَىٰ بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ مِنْ أَنْفُسِهِمْ ۖ 

(There is no believer except I am the closest of all people to him in this world and in the Hereafter. Recite, if you wish: (The Prophet is closer to the believers than themselves.)

فَأَيُّمَا مُؤْمِنٍ تَرَكَ مَالًا فَلْيَرِثْهُ عُصْبَتُهُ مَنْ كَانُوا، وَإِنْ تَرَكَ دَيْنًا أَوْ ضِيَاعًا فَلْيَأْتِنِي فَأَنَا مَوْلَاهُ

If any believer leaves behind any wealth, let his own relatives inherit it, but if he leaves behind any debt or orphans, bring them to me and I will take care of them.) This was recorded only by Al-Bukhari, and he also recorded it in the Book of Loans.

وَأَزْوَاجُهُ أُمَّهَاتُهُمْ ۗ 

(and his wives are their mothers.) means, they are unlawful for marriage. In terms of honor, respect and veneration, it is not permissible for them to be alone with them, and the prohibition of marriage to them does not extend to their daughters and sisters, according to scholarly consensus.

وَأُولُو الْأَرْحَامِ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلَىٰ بِبَعْضٍ فِي كِتَابِ اللَّهِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُهَاجِرِينَ

(And blood relations among each other have closer personal ties in the decree of Allah than the believers and the Muhajirin,)

This is an abrogation of the rule that existed previously, whereby they could inherit from one another by virtue of the oath of brotherhood among them. Ibn 'Abbas and others said: "A Muhajir would inherit from an Ansari even though they were not related by blood, because of the brotherhood established between them by the Messenger of Allah ﷺ."

This was also stated by Sa'id bin Jubayr and others among scholars of the earlier and later generations.

إِلَّا أَنْ تَفْعَلُوا إِلَىٰ أَوْلِيَائِكُمْ مَعْرُوفًا

(except that you do kindness to those brothers.) means, the idea of inheriting from one another has gone, but there remains the duty to offer support and kindness, to uphold ties of brotherhood and to offer good advice.

كَانَ ذَٰلِكَ فِي الْكِتَابِ مَسْطُورًا

(This has been written in the Book.) This ruling, which is that those who are blood relatives have closer personal ties to one another, is a ruling which Allah has decreed and which is written in the First Book which cannot be altered or changed. This is the view of Mujahid and others. (This is the case) even though Allah legislated something different at certain times, and there is wisdom behind this, for He knew that this would be abrogated and the original ruling that was instituted an eternity ago would prevail, and this is His universal and legislative decree. And Allah knows best.