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وَلَا تَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكَٰتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤۡمِنَّۚ وَلَأَمَةٞ مُّؤۡمِنَةٌ خَيۡرٞ مِّن مُّشۡرِكَةٖ وَلَوۡ أَعۡجَبَتۡكُمۡۗ وَلَا تُنكِحُواْ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤۡمِنُواْۚ وَلَعَبۡدٞ مُّؤۡمِنٌ خَيۡرٞ مِّن مُّشۡرِكٖ وَلَوۡ أَعۡجَبَكُمۡۗ أُوْلَـٰٓئِكَ يَدۡعُونَ إِلَى ٱلنَّارِۖ وَٱللَّهُ يَدۡعُوٓاْ إِلَى ٱلۡجَنَّةِ وَٱلۡمَغۡفِرَةِ بِإِذۡنِهِۦۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ ءَايَٰتِهِۦ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمۡ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

Wala tankihoo almushrikati hatta yuminna walaamatun muminatun khayrun min mushrikatin walaw aAAjabatkum wala tunkihoo almushrikeena hatta yuminoo walaAAabdun muminun khayrun min mushrikin walaw aAAjabakum olaika yadAAoona ila alnnari waAllahu yadAAoo ila aljannati waalmaghfirati biithnihi wayubayyinu ayatihi lilnnasi laAAallahum yatathakkaroona

And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.

Word by word
  1. وَلَاAnd (do) not
  2. تَنكِحُواْ[you] marry
  3. ٱلۡمُشۡرِكَٰتِ[the] polytheistic women
  4. حَتَّىٰuntil
  5. يُؤۡمِنَّۚthey believe
  6. وَلَأَمَةٞAnd a bondwoman
  7. مُّؤۡمِنَةٌ(who is) believing
  8. خَيۡرٞ(is) better
  9. مِّنthan
  10. مُّشۡرِكَةٖa polytheistic woman
  11. وَلَوۡ[and] even if
  12. أَعۡجَبَتۡكُمۡۗshe pleases you
  13. وَلَاAnd (do) not
  14. تُنكِحُواْgive in marriage (your women)
  15. ٱلۡمُشۡرِكِينَ(to) [the] polytheistic men
  16. حَتَّىٰuntil
  17. يُؤۡمِنُواْۚthey believe
  18. وَلَعَبۡدٞand a bondman
  19. مُّؤۡمِنٌ(who is) believing
  20. خَيۡرٞ(is) better
  21. مِّنthan
  22. مُّشۡرِكٖa polytheistic man
  23. وَلَوۡ[and] even if
  24. أَعۡجَبَكُمۡۗhe pleases you
  25. أُوْلَـٰٓئِكَ[Those]
  26. يَدۡعُونَthey invite
  27. إِلَىto
  28. ٱلنَّارِۖthe Fire
  29. وَٱللَّهُand Allah
  30. يَدۡعُوٓاْinvites
  31. إِلَىto
  32. ٱلۡجَنَّةِParadise
  33. وَٱلۡمَغۡفِرَةِand [the] forgiveness
  34. بِإِذۡنِهِۦۖby His permission
  35. وَيُبَيِّنُAnd He makes clear
  36. ءَايَٰتِهِۦHis Verses
  37. لِلنَّاسِfor the people
  38. لَعَلَّهُمۡso that they may
  39. يَتَذَكَّرُونَtake heed
Al-Baqarah · 2:221Madinah

Choose a partner by faith, not by what dazzles you.

What a marriage invites you toward


Two invitations
one who pleases youlooks, wealth, status
may invite to
the Firelove of this world
Allahinvites to Paradiseand forgiveness
What makes someone better
rich and impressivethe free master
a believing servantfaith outweighs status

Ibn Kathir notes this verse put a believing servant above a free, wealthy idolater, even an impressive one. He cites the hadith: a woman is chosen for wealth, status, beauty and religion, so choose the one with religion. A spouse shapes where your heart is pulled.

The profile with the perfect photos and the great job. The family pushing someone because of their surname. Impressive can still pull you away from Allah. The person you share a home with shapes your prayers, your kids, your Ramadan.

If they are attractive and successful, the rest will work itself out.

The best partner is the one who pulls me toward Allah, even if they impress me less.

Try this

Write down the three qualities you most want in a spouse, or value in yours. Is faith on the list?

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikin till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing servant is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolator), even though he pleases you. Those (Mushrikin) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember (221)

The Prohibition of marrying Mushrik Men and Women

Allah prohibited the believers from marrying Mushrik women who worship idols. Although the meaning is general and includes every Mushrik woman from among the idol worshippers and the People of the Scripture, Allah excluded the People of the Scripture from this ruling. Allah stated:

 مِنَ الَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ إِذَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ مُحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ

((Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time when you have given their due dowry, desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse.)(5:5)

Ali bin Abu Talhah said that Ibn 'Abbas said about what Allah said:

وَلَا تَنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ

(And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (female idolators) till they believe (worship Allah Alone).)

"Allah has excluded the women of the People of the Scripture." This is also the explanation of Mujahid, 'Ikrimah, Sa'id bin Jubayr, Makhul, Al-Hasan, Ad-Dahhak, Zayd bin Aslam and Ar-Rabi' bin Anas and others. Some scholars said that the Ayah is exclusively talking about idol worshippers and not the People of the Scripture, and this meaning is similar to the first meaning we mentioned. Allah knows best.

Abu Ja'far bin Jarir (At-Tabari) said, after mentioning that there is Ijma' that marrying women from the People of the Scripture is allowed, "Umar disliked this practice so that the Muslims do not refrain from marrying Muslim women, or for similar reasons." An authentic chain of narrators stated that Shaqiq said: Once Hudhayfah married a Jewish woman and 'Umar wrote to him, "Divorce her." He wrote back, "Do you claim that she is not allowed for me so that I divorce her?" He said, "No. But, I fear that you might marry the whores from among them." Ibn Jarir related that Zayd bin Wahb said that 'Umar bin Khattab said, "The Muslim man marries the Christian woman, but the Christian man does not marry the Muslim woman." This Hadith has a stronger, authentic chain of narrators than the previous Hadith.

Ibn Abu Hatim said that Ibn 'Umar disliked marrying the women from the People of the Scripture. He relied on his own explanation for the Ayah:

وَلَا تَنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ

(And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (female idolators) till they believe (worship Allah Alone).)

Al-Bukhari also reported that Ibn 'Umar said, "I do not know of a bigger Shirk than her saying that Jesus is her Lord!"

Allah said:

وَلَأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ

(And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (female idolators), even though she pleases you.)

It is recorded in the Two Sahihs that Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said:

تُنْـكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ: لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا، فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ، تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ

(A woman is chosen for marriage for four reasons: her wealth, social status, beauty, and religion. So, marry the religious woman, may your hands be filled with sand (a statement of encouragement).)

Muslim reported this Hadith from Jabir. Muslim also reported that Ibn 'Amr said that Allah's Messenger ﷺ said:

الدُّنْيَا مَتَاعٌ، وَخَيْرُ مَتَاعِ الدُّنْيَا الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ

(The life of this world is but a delight, and the best of the delights of this earthly life is the righteous wife.)

Allah then said:

وَلَا تُنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا

(And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikin till they believe (in Allah Alone).) meaning, do not marry Mushrik men to believing women. This statement is similar to Allah's statement:

لَا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَّهُمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَ لَهُنَّ

(They are not lawful (wives) for them, nor are they lawful (husbands) for them.)(60:10)

Next, Allah said:

وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ

(...and verily, a believing servant is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolator), even though he pleases you.)

This Ayah indicates that a believing man, even an Abyssinian servant, is better than a Mushrik man, even if he was a rich master.

 أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ

(Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire) meaning, associating and mingling with the disbelievers makes one love this life and prefer it over the Hereafter, leading to the severest repercussions. Allah said:

وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ

(...but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His leave) meaning, by His Law, commandments and prohibitions. Allah said:

 وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

(...and makes His Ayat clear to mankind that they may remember.)