49:11

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَسۡخَرۡ قَوۡمٞ مِّن قَوۡمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُواْ خَيۡرٗا مِّنۡهُمۡ وَلَا نِسَآءٞ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيۡرٗا مِّنۡهُنَّۖ وَلَا تَلۡمِزُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَلَا تَنَابَزُواْ بِٱلۡأَلۡقَٰبِۖ بِئۡسَ ٱلِٱسۡمُ ٱلۡفُسُوقُ بَعۡدَ ٱلۡإِيمَٰنِۚ وَمَن لَّمۡ يَتُبۡ فَأُوْلَـٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ

Ya ayyuha allatheena amanoo la yaskhar qawmun min qawmin AAasa an yakoonoo khayran minhum wala nisaon min nisain AAasa an yakunna khayran minhunna wala talmizoo anfusakum wala tanabazoo bialalqabi bisa alismu alfusooqu baAAda aleemani waman lam yatub faolaika humu alththalimoona

O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.

Word by word
  1. يَـٰٓأَيُّهَاO you who believe
  2. ٱلَّذِينَO you who believe
  3. ءَامَنُواْO you who believe
  4. لَا(Let) not
  5. يَسۡخَرۡridicule
  6. قَوۡمٞa people
  7. مِّن[of]
  8. قَوۡمٍ(another) people
  9. عَسَىٰٓperhaps
  10. أَنthat
  11. يَكُونُواْthey may be
  12. خَيۡرٗاbetter
  13. مِّنۡهُمۡthan them
  14. وَلَاand (let) not
  15. نِسَآءٞwomen
  16. مِّن[of]
  17. نِّسَآءٍ(other) women
  18. عَسَىٰٓperhaps
  19. أَنthat
  20. يَكُنَّthey may be
  21. خَيۡرٗاbetter
  22. مِّنۡهُنَّۖthan them
  23. وَلَاAnd (do) not
  24. تَلۡمِزُوٓاْinsult
  25. أَنفُسَكُمۡyourselves
  26. وَلَاand (do) not
  27. تَنَابَزُواْcall each other
  28. بِٱلۡأَلۡقَٰبِۖby nicknames
  29. بِئۡسَWretched is
  30. ٱلِٱسۡمُthe name
  31. ٱلۡفُسُوقُ(of) disobedience
  32. بَعۡدَafter
  33. ٱلۡإِيمَٰنِۚthe faith
  34. وَمَنAnd whoever
  35. لَّمۡ(does) not
  36. يَتُبۡrepent
  37. فَأُوْلَـٰٓئِكَthen those
  38. هُمُthey
  39. ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ(are) the wrongdoers
Al-Hujurat · 49:11Madinah

The one you laugh at may be better than you.

Mockery, digs, and names people hate


Three ways to belittle
mockinga group laughs at another
defamingdigs in words and gestures
bad nicknamesnames they dislike
yet
perhaps they are betterin Allah's sight
Who is lower
they are a jokeI am above that
maybe dearer to Allahthan the one laughing

Abu Jabirah said this was revealed about Banu Salamah. When the Prophet ﷺ came to Madinah, many of them had two or three nicknames. He would call a man by one and be told, he hates that name. Ibn Kathir links mockery to the hadith: arrogance is rejecting truth and belittling people.

The nickname from school that still sticks at family weddings. The office group that has a running joke about one colleague's accent. The meme you share about someone's weight. The person in the joke may be closer to Allah than everyone laughing.

It is just banter, they know I do not mean it.

If they dislike the name or the joke, it is not banter, and they may be better than me.

Try this

Stop using one nickname today that someone has ever winced at. Call them by their real name.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame yourselves, nor insult one another by nicknames. Evil is the name of wickedness after faith. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed wrongdoers (11)

The Prohibition of mocking and ridiculing One Another

Allah the Exalted forbids scoffing at people, which implies humiliating and belittling them. In the Sahih, it is recorded that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

الْكِبْرُ بَطَرُ الْحَقِّ وَغَمْصُ النَّاسِ

(Arrogance is refusing the truth and belittling people.) And in another Version

غَمْطُ النَّاسِ

(And despising people) It is forbidden to scoff at and belittle people, for the injured party could be more honored and dearer to Allah the Exalted than those who ridicule and belittle them. This is why Allah the Exalted said,

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ ۖ 

(O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former.) thus, stating this prohibition for men and then women. The statement of Allah the Exalted,

وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ

(Nor defame yourselves,) forbids defaming each other. He among men who is a slanderer, and a backbiter, is cursed and condemned as Allah states

وَيْلٌ لِكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُمَزَةٍ 

(Woe to every Humazah, Lumazah)(104:1) Hamz is defamation by action, while Lamz is by words. Allah the Exalted and Most Honored said,

هَمَّازٍ مَشَّاءٍ بِنَمِيمٍ

(Hammaz (defaming), going about with slander.)(68:11) meaning, he belittles and defames people, transgressing and spreading slander among them, which is the Lamz that uses words as its tool. Allah's statement here,

وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ 

(Nor defame yourselves,) just as He said in another Ayah,

وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ ۚ

(Nor kill yourselves)(4:29), meaning, nor kill one another. 'Abdullah bin 'Abbas, Mujahid, Sa'id bin Jubayr, Qatadah and Muqatil bin Hayyan said that the Ayah,

وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ 

(Nor defame yourselves,) means, none of you should defame each other,' while,

وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ

(nor insult one another by nicknames.) means, 'you should not address people by nick names that people dislike.' Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu Jabirah bin Ad-Dahhak said, "This Ayah was revealed about us, Banu Salamah;

وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ

(nor insult one another by nicknames.) When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ migrated to Al-Madinah, every man among us had two or three nicknames. When the Prophet ﷺ called a man by one of these nicknames, people would say, 'O Allah's Messenger! He hates that nickname.' Then this Ayah,

وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ

(nor insult one another by nicknames.) was revealed." Abu Dawud also collected this Hadith. The statement of Allah the Exalted and Most Honored,

 بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ

(Evil is the name of wickedness after faith), means, the names and descriptions of wickedness are evil; meaning, 'to use the nicknames that were used by the people of Jahiliyyah, after you embraced Islam and understood it,'

وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ 

(And whosoever does not repent,) means, from this sin,

فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

(then such are indeed wrongdoers.)