17:23

۞وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفّٖ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلٗا كَرِيمٗا

Waqada rabbuka alla taAAbudoo illa iyyahu wabialwalidayni ihsanan imma yablughanna AAindaka alkibara ahaduhuma aw kilahuma fala taqul lahuma offin wala tanharhuma waqul lahuma qawlan kareeman

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.

Word by word
  1. ۞وَقَضَىٰAnd has decreed
  2. رَبُّكَyour Lord
  3. أَلَّاthat (do) not
  4. تَعۡبُدُوٓاْworship
  5. إِلَّآexcept
  6. إِيَّاهُHim Alone
  7. وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِand to the parents
  8. إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ(be) good
  9. إِمَّاWhether
  10. يَبۡلُغَنَّreach
  11. عِندَكَwith you
  12. ٱلۡكِبَرَthe old age
  13. أَحَدُهُمَآone of them
  14. أَوۡor
  15. كِلَاهُمَاboth of them
  16. فَلَاthen (do) not
  17. تَقُلsay
  18. لَّهُمَآto both of them
  19. أُفّٖa word of disrespect
  20. وَلَاand (do) not
  21. تَنۡهَرۡهُمَاrepel them
  22. وَقُلbut speak
  23. لَّهُمَاto them
  24. قَوۡلٗاa word
  25. كَرِيمٗاnoble
Al-Isra · 17:23Makkah

Worship Him alone, and not even a sigh at your parents.

Kindness to parents placed right after worship


Your Lord decreed
worship Him only
and
goodness to parentsmost when they are old
not even uffno harsh voice
a noble wordgentle, respectful
What counts as disrespect
I never shoutedso I am fine
even uffthe smallest sigh counts

Ibn Kathir notes that worshipping Allah is tied directly to honoring parents. Uff is the mildest word of irritation, and even that is ruled out. He cites the Prophet ﷺ saying on the minbar that a person is doomed if his parents reach old age with him and they do not become his way into Paradise.

Your mother asks the same question about her phone for the fourth time. Your father tells the old story again at dinner. You feel the sigh rising, the eye roll, the sharp tone. That moment is a door to Paradise.

As long as I do not yell at my parents, I am a good child.

Even a tired sigh matters, and a soft word to them is worship.

Try this

Call or visit a parent today and keep your voice gentle the whole time.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

And your Lord has Qada [decreed] that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honor (23)And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young. (24)

The Command to Worship Allah Alone and to be Dutiful to One's Parents

Allah commands us to worship Him alone, with no partner or associate. The word Qada [normally having the meaning of decree] here means "commanded". Mujahid said that

وَقَضَىٰ

(And He has Qada) means enjoined. This is also how Ubayy bin Ka'b, Ibn Mas'ud and Ad-Dahhak bin Muzahim recited the Ayah as:

وَوَصَّى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ

"And your Lord has Wassa [enjoined] that you worship none but Him." The idea of worshipping Allah is connected to the idea of honoring one's parents. Allah says:

وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

(And that you be dutiful to your parents.) Here He commands good treatment of parents, as He says elsewhere:

أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ

(give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination)[31:14]

إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ

(If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect,) means, do not let them hear anything offensive from you, not even say "Uff!" which is the mildest word of disrespect,

وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا

(and do not reprimand them) means, do not do anything horrible to them.

وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا

(and do not reprimand them) 'Ata' bin Rabah said that it meant, "Do not raise your hand against them." When Allah forbids speaking and behaving in an obnoxious manner, He commands speaking and behaving in a good manner, so He says:

وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

(but address them in terms of honor.) meaning gently, kindly, politely, and with respect and appreciation.

وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ

(And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy,) means, be humble towards them in your actions.

وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

(and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.") means, say this when they grow old and when they die. Ibn 'Abbas said: "But then Allah revealed:

مَا كَانَ لِلنَّبِيِّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَن يَسْتَغْفِرُوا لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ

(It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allah's forgiveness for the idolators...)" [9:13] There are many Hadiths which speak about honoring one's parents, such as the Hadith narrated through a number of chains of narration from Anas and others, which states that the Prophet ﷺ climbed up on the Minbar, and then said, ((Āmīn, Āmīn, Āmīn.)) It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, why did you say Āmīn?" He said:

أَتَانِي جِبْرِيلُ فَقَالَ: يَا مُحَمَّدُ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَجُلٍ ذُكِرْتَ عِنْدَهُ فَلَمْ يُصَلِّ عَلَيْكَ، قُلْ: آمِينَ، فَقُلْتُ: آمِينَ، ثُمَّ قَالَ: رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَجُلٍ دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ فَلَمْ يُغْفَرْ لَهُ، قُلْ: آمِينَ، فَقُلْتُ: آمِينَ، ثُمَّ قَالَ: رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَجُلٍ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ أَوْ أَحَدَهُمَا فَلَمْ يُدْخِلَاهُ الْجَنَّةَ، قُلْ: آمِينَ، فَقُلْتُ: آمِينَ

(Jibril came to me and said, "O Muhammad, he is doomed who hears you mentioned and does not say Salla upon you." He said, "Say Āmīn," so I said Āmīn. Then he said, "He is doomed who sees the month of Ramadan come and go, and he has not been forgiven." He said, "Say Āmīn," so I said Āmīn. Then he said, "He is doomed who grows up and both his parents or one of them are still alive, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise." He said, "Say Āmīn," so I said Āmīn.)

Another Hadith

Imam Ahmad reported from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet ﷺ said:

رَغِمَ أَنْفُ، ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُ رَجُلٍ أَدْرَكَ أَحَدَ أَبَوَيْهِ أَوْ (كِلَيْهِمَا) عِنْدَ الْكِبَرِ وَلَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ

(He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed, the man whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age while he is alive and he does not enter Paradise.) This version is Sahih although no one recorded it other than Muslim.

Another Hadith

Imam Ahmad recorded Mu'awiyah bin Jahimah As-Salami saying that Jahimah came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: "O Messenger of Allah, I want to go out to fight and I have come to seek your advice." He said,

فَهَلْ لَكَ مِنْ أُمِّ

(Do you have a mother?) He said, "Yes." The Prophet ﷺ said,

فَالْزَمْهَا فَإِنَّ الْجَنَّةَ عِنْدَ رِجْلَيْهَا

(Then stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.) Similar incidents were also recorded by others. This was recorded by An-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah.

Another Hadith

Imam Ahmad recorded that Al-Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib said that the Prophet ﷺ said:

إِنَّ اللهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ إِنَّ اللهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ إِنَّ اللهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ إِنَّ اللهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ إِنَّ اللهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالْأَقْرَبِ فَالْأَقْرَبِ

(Allah enjoins you concerning your fathers, Allah enjoins you concerning your mothers, Allah enjoins you concerning your mothers, Allah enjoins you concerning your mothers, Allah enjoins you concerning your close relatives then the next in closeness.) This was recorded by Ibn Majah from the Hadith of 'Abdullah bin 'Ayyash.

Another Hadith

Ahmad recorded that a man from Banu Yarbu' said: "I came to the Prophet ﷺ while he was talking to the people, and I heard him saying,

يَدُ الْمُعْطِي الْعُلْيَا، أُمَّكَ وَأَبَاكَ، وَأُخْتَكَ وَأَخَاكَ، ثُمَّ أَدْنَاكَ أَدْنَاكَ

(The hand of the one who gives is superior. (Give to) your mother and your father, your sister and your brother, then the closest and next closest.)"