28:27

قَالَ إِنِّيٓ أُرِيدُ أَنۡ أُنكِحَكَ إِحۡدَى ٱبۡنَتَيَّ هَٰتَيۡنِ عَلَىٰٓ أَن تَأۡجُرَنِي ثَمَٰنِيَ حِجَجٖۖ فَإِنۡ أَتۡمَمۡتَ عَشۡرٗا فَمِنۡ عِندِكَۖ وَمَآ أُرِيدُ أَنۡ أَشُقَّ عَلَيۡكَۚ سَتَجِدُنِيٓ إِن شَآءَ ٱللَّهُ مِنَ ٱلصَّـٰلِحِينَ

Qala innee oreedu an onkihaka ihda ibnatayya hatayni AAala an tajuranee thamaniya hijajin fain atmamta AAashran famin AAindika wama oreedu an ashuqqa AAalayka satajidunee in shaa Allahu mina alssaliheena

He said, "Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on [the condition] that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be [as a favor] from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allah wills, from among the righteous."

Word by word
  1. قَالَHe said
  2. إِنِّيٓIndeed,I
  3. أُرِيدُ[I] wish
  4. أَنۡto
  5. أُنكِحَكَmarry you to
  6. إِحۡدَىone
  7. ٱبۡنَتَيَّ(of) my daughters
  8. هَٰتَيۡنِ(of) these two
  9. عَلَىٰٓon
  10. أَنthat
  11. تَأۡجُرَنِيyou serve me
  12. ثَمَٰنِيَ(for) eight
  13. حِجَجٖۖyears
  14. فَإِنۡbut if
  15. أَتۡمَمۡتَyou complete
  16. عَشۡرٗاten
  17. فَمِنۡthen from
  18. عِندِكَۖyou
  19. وَمَآAnd not
  20. أُرِيدُI wish
  21. أَنۡto
  22. أَشُقَّmake it difficult
  23. عَلَيۡكَۚfor you
  24. سَتَجِدُنِيٓYou will find me
  25. إِنif
  26. شَآءَAllah wills
  27. ٱللَّهُAllah wills
  28. مِنَof
  29. ٱلصَّـٰلِحِينَthe righteous
Al-Qasas · 28:27Makkah

An offer of marriage, made without pressure.

Eight years, or ten if you choose


The offer
the old fatherone of my daughters
for
8years tending flocks
10 if you wisha favor, not owed
How he dealt
squeeze the newcomerhe has no options
no hardshipyou will find me righteous

The old man offered Musa marriage to one of his daughters if he tended the flocks for eight years, with two more as a favor, if he wished. He added "I do not wish to put you in difficulty." Musa was a fugitive with nothing; the father did not exploit that.

You are hiring someone desperate for work, or renting a room to a student far from home. You could push the terms. This father chose fairness and ease with a man who had no bargaining power.

When someone needs me more than I need them, I can set the terms.

Dealing fairly and without pressure with someone vulnerable is what the righteous do.

Try this

In your next deal or request, make one part easier for the other person than it has to be.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 28:25)

Then there came to him one of them, walking shyly. She said: "Verily, my father calls you that he may reward you for having watered (our flocks) for us." So when he came to him and narrated the story, he said: "Fear you not. You have escaped from the people who are wrongdoers. (25)And said one of them (the two women): "O my father! Hire him! Verily, the best of men for you to hire is the strong, the trustworthy. (26)He said: "I intend to wed one of these two daughters of mine to you, on condition that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten years, it will be (a favor) from you. But I intend not to place you under a difficulty. If Allah wills, you will find me one of the righteous. (27)He (Musa) said: "That (is settled) between me and you: whichever of the two terms I fulfill, there will be no injustice to me, and Allah is Surety over what we say. (28)

Musa, the Father of the Two Women, and His Marriage to One of Them

When the two women came back quickly with the sheep, their father was surprised that they returned so soon. He asked them what had happened, and they told him what Musa, peace be upon him, had done. So he sent one of them to call him to meet her father. Allah says:

فَجَاءَتْهُ إِحْدَاهُمَا تَمْشِي عَلَى اسْتِحْيَاءٍ

(Then there came to him one of them, walking shyly.) meaning, she was walking like a free woman, as it was narrated from the Commander of the faithful, 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him: "She was covering herself from them with the folds of her garment."

Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that 'Amr bin Maymun said, 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "She came walking shyly, putting her garment over her face. She was not one of those audacious women who come and go as they please." This chain of narrators is Sahih.

قَالَتْ إِنَّ أَبِي يَدْعُوكَ لِيَجْزِيَكَ أَجْرَ مَا سَقَيْتَ لَنَا

(She said: "Verily, my father calls you that he may reward you for having watered (our flocks) for us.") This is an example of good manners: she did not invite him directly lest he have some suspicious thoughts about her. Rather she said: "My father is inviting you so that he may reward you for watering our sheep," i.e., give you some payment for that.

فَلَمَّا جَاءَهُ وَقَصَّ عَلَيْهِ الْقَصَصَ

(So when he came to him and narrated the story,) means, he told him about his story and why he had to leave his country.

قَالَ لَا تَخَفْ ۖ نَجَوْتَ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ 

(he said: "Fear you not. You have escaped from the people who are wrongdoers.") He was saying: 'calm down and relax, for you have left their kingdom and they have no authority in our land.' So he said:

نَجَوْتَ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ

(You have escaped from the people who are wrongdoers.)

قَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا يَا أَبَتِ اسْتَأْجِرْهُ ۖ إِنَّ خَيْرَ مَنِ اسْتَأْجَرْتَ الْقَوِيُّ الْأَمِينُ 

(And said one of them: "O my father! Hire him! Verily, the best of men for you to hire is the strong, the trustworthy.") One of the two daughters of the man said this, and it was said that she was the one who had walked behind Musa, peace be upon him. She said to her father:

يَا أَبَتِ اسْتَأْجِرْهُ

(O my father! Hire him!) as a shepherd to look after the sheep. 'Umar, Ibn 'Abbas, Shurayh Al-Qadi, Abu Malik, Qatadah, Muhammad bin Ishaq and others said: "When she said:

إِنَّ خَيْرَ مَنِ اسْتَأْجَرْتَ الْقَوِيُّ الْأَمِينُ 

(Verily, the best of men for you to hire is the strong, the trustworthy.) her father said to her, 'What do you know about that?' She said to him, 'He lifted a rock which could only be lifted by ten men, and when I came back with him, I walked ahead of him, but he said to me, walk behind me, and if I get confused about the route, throw a pebble so that I will know which way to go.'" 'Abdullah (Ibn Mas'ud) said, "The people who had the most discernment were three: Abu Bakr's intuition about 'Umar; the companion of Yusuf when he said, 'Make his stay comfortable'; and the companion of Musa, when she said:

يَا أَبَتِ اسْتَأْجِرْهُ ۖ إِنَّ خَيْرَ مَنِ اسْتَأْجَرْتَ الْقَوِيُّ الْأَمِينُ

(O my father! Hire him! Verily, the best of men for you to hire is the strong, the trustworthy.)."

إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أُنْكِحَكَ إِحْدَى ابْنَتَيَّ هَاتَيْنِ

(I intend to wed one of these two daughters of mine to you,) means, this old man asked him to take care of his flocks, then he would marry one of his two daughters to him.

عَلَىٰ أَنْ تَأْجُرَنِي ثَمَانِيَ حِجَجٍ ۖ فَإِنْ أَتْمَمْتَ عَشْرًا فَمِنْ عِنْدِكَ ۖ 

(on condition that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten years, it will be (a favor) from you.) meaning, 'on the condition that you tend my flocks for eight years, and if you want to give me two extra years, that is up to you, but if you do not want to, then eight years is enough.'

وَمَا أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَشُقَّ عَلَيْكَ ۚ سَتَجِدُنِي إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ

(But I intend not to place you under a difficulty. If Allah wills, you will find me one of the righteous.) means, 'I do not want to put pressure on you or cause you any inconvenience or argue with you.'

Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that 'Ali bin Rabah Al-Lakhmi said, "I heard 'Utbah bin An-Nadar As-Sulami, the Companion of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ narrating that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

إِنَّ مُوسَى عَلَيْهِ السَّلَامُ آجَرَ نَفْسَهُ بِعِفَّةِ فَرْجِهِ وَطُعْمَةِ بَطْنِهِ

(Musa, peace be upon him, hired himself out for the purpose of keeping chaste and to feed himself.) And Allah tells us about Musa, peace be upon him:

قَالَ ذَٰلِكَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَكَ ۖ أَيَّمَا الْأَجَلَيْنِ قَضَيْتُ فَلَا عُدْوَانَ عَلَيَّ ۖ وَاللَّهُ عَلَىٰ مَا نَقُولُ وَكِيلٌ

(He said: "That (is settled) between me and you: whichever of the two terms I fulfill, there will be no injustice to me, and Allah is Surety over what we say.") Musa said to his father-in-law, "The matter is as you say. You have hired me for eight years, and if I complete ten years, that is my choice, but if I do the lesser amount, I will still have fulfilled the covenant and met the conditions." So he said:

أَيَّمَا الْأَجَلَيْنِ قَضَيْتُ فَلَا عُدْوَانَ عَلَيَّ ۖ 

(whichever of the two terms I fulfill, there will be no injustice to me,) meaning, 'there will be no blame on me. The complete term is permissible but it is still regarded as something extra.' This is like the Ayah,

فَمَنْ تَعَجَّلَ فِي يَوْمَيْنِ فَلَا إِثْمَ عَلَيْهِ وَمَنْ تَأَخَّرَ فَلَا إِثْمَ عَلَيْهِ ۚ 

(But whosoever hastens to leave in two days, there is no sin on him and whosoever stays on, there is no sin on him)(2:203). And the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to Hamzah bin 'Amr Al-Aslami, may Allah be pleased with him, who used to fast a great deal and who asked him about fasting while traveling:

إِنْ شِئْتَ فَصُمْ، وَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَفْطِرْ

(If you wish, then fast, and if you wish, do not fast.) even though it is better to fast, according to the evidence of other reports. And there is evidence which indicates that Musa, peace be upon him, fulfilled the longer of the two terms.

Al-Bukhari recorded that Sa'id bin Jubayr said: "A Jew from the people of Hirah asked me; 'Which of the two terms did Musa fulfill?' I said, 'I do not know until I go to the scholar of the Arabs and ask him.' So I went to Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, and asked him. He said: 'He fulfilled the longer and better of them, for when a Messenger of Allah said he would do a thing, he did it.'" This is how it was recorded by Al-Bukhari.