3:36

فَلَمَّا وَضَعَتۡهَا قَالَتۡ رَبِّ إِنِّي وَضَعۡتُهَآ أُنثَىٰ وَٱللَّهُ أَعۡلَمُ بِمَا وَضَعَتۡ وَلَيۡسَ ٱلذَّكَرُ كَٱلۡأُنثَىٰۖ وَإِنِّي سَمَّيۡتُهَا مَرۡيَمَ وَإِنِّيٓ أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ ٱلشَّيۡطَٰنِ ٱلرَّجِيمِ

Falamma wadaAAatha qalat rabbi innee wadaAAtuha ontha waAllahu aAAlamu bima wadaAAat walaysa alththakaru kaalontha wainnee sammaytuha maryama wainnee oAAeethuha bika wathurriyyataha mina alshshaytani alrrajeemi

But when she delivered her, she said, "My Lord, I have delivered a female." And Allah was most knowing of what she delivered, "And the male is not like the female. And I have named her Mary, and I seek refuge for her in You and [for] her descendants from Satan, the expelled [from the mercy of Allah]."

Word by word
  1. فَلَمَّاThen when
  2. وَضَعَتۡهَاshe delivered her
  3. قَالَتۡshe said
  4. رَبِّMy Lord
  5. إِنِّيindeed I
  6. وَضَعۡتُهَآ[I] (have) delivered [her]
  7. أُنثَىٰa female
  8. وَٱللَّهُAnd Allah
  9. أَعۡلَمُknows better
  10. بِمَا[of] what
  11. وَضَعَتۡshe delivered
  12. وَلَيۡسَand is not
  13. ٱلذَّكَرُthe male
  14. كَٱلۡأُنثَىٰۖlike the female
  15. وَإِنِّيAnd that I
  16. سَمَّيۡتُهَا[I] (have) named her
  17. مَرۡيَمَMaryam
  18. وَإِنِّيٓand that I
  19. أُعِيذُهَا[I] seek refuge for her
  20. بِكَin You
  21. وَذُرِّيَّتَهَاand her offspring
  22. مِنَfrom
  23. ٱلشَّيۡطَٰنِthe Shaitaan
  24. ٱلرَّجِيمِthe rejected
Ali 'Imran · 3:36Madinah

She expected a son. Allah knew better.

The birth of Maryam and a mother's protection


The birth
expecteda son to serve
but
a daughternamed Maryam
Allah knew betterwhat she bore
Her next move
disappointmentnot what I planned
refuge for herand her offspring

She had expected a male for service in the masjid. Yet Allah knew better what she bore. She named her Maryam and sought refuge for her and her offspring from Shaytan. Ibn Kathir cites the hadith that Maryam and her son were not touched by Shaytan at birth.

The plan did not go your way: a different child, a different job, a different city. Allah knew better what you were given. The mother of Maryam did not argue. She protected what she got.

This is not what I asked for, so it is a setback.

Allah knows better what He gave me, so I care for it and seek His protection.

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Say a dua of protection over someone you love today, by name.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 3:35)

(Remember) when the wife of 'Imran said: "O my Lord! I have vowed to You what is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services, so accept this from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing. (35)Then when she gave birth to her, she said: "O my Lord! I have given birth to a female child, ـ and Allah knew better what she bore, ـ "And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from Shaytan, the outcast. (36)

The Story of Maryam's Birth

The wife of 'Imran mentioned here is the mother of Maryam, and her name is Hannah bint Faqudh. Muhammad bin Ishaq mentioned that Hannah could not have children and that one day, she saw a bird feeding its chick. She wished she could have children and supplicated to Allah to grant her offspring. Allah accepted her supplication, and when her husband slept with her, she became pregnant. She vowed to make her child concentrate on worship and serving Bayt Al-Maqdis (the Masjid in Jerusalem), when she became aware that she was pregnant. She said,

رَبِّ إِنِّي نَذَرْتُ لَكَ مَا فِي بَطْنِي مُحَرَّرًا فَتَقَبَّلْ مِنِّي إِنَّكَ أَنتَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ

(O my Lord! I have vowed to You what is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services, so accept this from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing.) meaning, You hear my supplication and You know my intention. She did not know then what she would give birth to, a male or a female.

فَلَمَّا وَضَعَتْهَا قَالَتْ رَبِّ إِنِّي وَضَعْتُهَا أُنثَىٰ وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا وَضَعَتْ

(Then when she gave birth to her, she said: "O my Lord! I have given birth to a female child, ـ and Allah knew better what she bore.)

وَلَيْسَ الذَّكَرُ كَالْأُنثَىٰ

(And the male is not like the female,) in strength and the commitment to worship Allah and serve the Masjid in Jerusalem.

وَإِنِّي سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ

(And I have named her Maryam,) thus, testifying to the fact that it is allowed to give a name to the newly born the day it is born, as is apparent from the Ayah, which is also a part of the law of those who were before us. Further, the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ mentioned that the Prophet ﷺ said,

وُلِدَ لِيَ اللَّيْلَةَ وَلَدٌ، سَمَّيْتُهُ بِاسْمِ أَبِي إِبْرَاهِيمَ

(This night, a son was born for me and I called him by my father's name, Ibrahim.) Al-Bukhari and Muslim collected this Hadith.

They also recorded that Anas bin Malik brought his newborn brother to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who chewed a piece of date and put it in the child's mouth and called him 'Abdullah. Other new born infants were also given names on the day they were born.

Qatadah narrated that Al-Hasan Al-Basri said, that Samurah bin Jundub said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

كُلُّ غُلَامٍ رَهِينٌ بِعَقِيقَتِهِ، يُذْبَحُ عَنْهُ يَوْمَ سَابِعِهِ، وَيُسَمَّى وَيُحْلَقُ رَأَسُهُ

(Every new born boy held in security by his 'Aqiqah, until his seventh day, a sacrifice is offered on his behalf, he is given a name, and the hair on his head is shaved.)

This Hadith was collected by Ahmad and the collectors of the Sunan, and was graded Sahih by At-Tirmidhi. We should mention that another narration for this Hadith contained the wording, "and blood is offered on his behalf," which is more famous and established than the former narration, and Allah knows best.

Allah's statement that Maryam's mother said,

وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ

("...And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from Shaytan, the outcast.") means, that she sought refuge with Allah from the evil of Shaytan, for her and her offspring, i.e., 'Isa, peace be upon him. Allah accepted her supplication, for 'Abdur-Razzaq recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

مَا مِنْ مَوْلُودٍ يُولَدُ إِلَّا مَسَّهُ الشَّيْطَانُ حِينَ يُولَدُ، فَيَسْتَهِلُّ صَارِخًا مِنْ مَسِّهِ إِيَّاهُ، إِلَّا مَرْيَمَ وَابْنَهَا

(Every newly born baby is touched by Shaytan when it is born, and the baby starts crying because of this touch, except Maryam and her son.)

Abu Hurayrah then said, "Read if you will,

وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ

(And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from Shaytan, the outcast)." The Two Sahihs recorded this Hadith.