16:126

وَإِنۡ عَاقَبۡتُمۡ فَعَاقِبُواْ بِمِثۡلِ مَا عُوقِبۡتُم بِهِۦۖ وَلَئِن صَبَرۡتُمۡ لَهُوَ خَيۡرٞ لِّلصَّـٰبِرِينَ

Wain AAaqabtum faAAaqiboo bimithli ma AAooqibtum bihi walain sabartum lahuwa khayrun lilssabireena

And if you punish [an enemy, O believers], punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed. But if you are patient - it is better for those who are patient.

Word by word
  1. وَإِنۡAnd if
  2. عَاقَبۡتُمۡyou retaliate
  3. فَعَاقِبُواْthen retaliate
  4. بِمِثۡلِwith the like
  5. مَاof what
  6. عُوقِبۡتُمyou were afflicted
  7. بِهِۦۖwith [it]
  8. وَلَئِنBut if
  9. صَبَرۡتُمۡyou are patient
  10. لَهُوَsurely (it) is
  11. خَيۡرٞbetter
  12. لِّلصَّـٰبِرِينَfor those who are patient
An-Nahl · 16:126Makkah

If you respond, keep it equal. Patience is better.

Justice as the limit, patience as the higher choice


When you are wronged
harm done to youa real wrong
you may
respond equallynot more
or
be patientbetter for the patient
Two good options, one better
pay back doubleteach them a lesson
patiencethe better way

Ibn Kathir says Allah commands justice in punishment and fairness in settling rights. Ibn Sirin said if someone takes something from you, take something similar. Ibn Zayd said some strong new Muslims wanted to strike back at the idolators of Makkah, and this came. Then the verse adds: patience is better.

Your coworker took credit for your work in the meeting. Your hand is already typing a long email to the whole team. A fair response is allowed. Patience is the better road, and it is rewarded.

If someone wrongs me, I should hit back harder.

I may answer a wrong fairly, but patience is better.

Try this

Wait 24 hours before responding to the next person who wrongs you.

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Tafsir Ibn Kathir

And if you punish them, then punish them with the like of that with which you were afflicted. But if you have patience with them, then it is better for those who are patient (126)And be patient, and your patience will not be, but by the help of Allah. And do not grieve over them, and do not be distressed by their plots (127)Truly, Allah is with those who have Taqwa, and the doers of good (128)

The Command for Equality in Punishment

Allah commands justice in punishment and equity in settling the cases of rights. 'Abdur-Razzaq recorded that, concerning the Ayah,

فَعَاقِبُوا بِمِثْلِ مَا عُوقِبْتُم بِهِ

(then punish them with the like of that with which you were afflicted.)

Ibn Sirin said, "If a man among you takes something from you, then you should take something similar from him." This was also the opinion of Mujahid, Ibrahim, Al-Hasan Al-Basri, and others. Ibn Jarir also favored this opinion. Ibn Zayd said: "They had been commanded to forgive the idolators, then some men became Muslim who were strong and powerful. They said, 'O Messenger of Allah, if only Allah would give us permission, we would sort out these dogs!' Then this Ayah was revealed, then it was latter abrogated by the command to engage in Jihad."

وَاصْبِرْ وَمَا صَبْرُكَ إِلَّا بِاللَّهِ

(And be patient, and your patience will not be but by the help of Allah.) This emphasizes the command to be patient and tells us that patience cannot be acquired except by the will, help, decree and power of Allah. Then Allah says:

وَلَا تَحْزَنْ عَلَيْهِمْ

(And do not grieve over them,) meaning, those who oppose you, for Allah has decreed that this should happen.

وَلَا تَكُ فِي ضَيْقٍ

(and do not be distressed) means do not be worried or upset.

مِّمَّا يَمْكُرُونَ

(by their plots.) meaning; because of the efforts they are putting into opposing you and causing you harm, for Allah is protecting, helping, and supporting you, and He will cause you to prevail and defeat them.

إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ اتَّقَوا وَّالَّذِينَ هُم مُّحْسِنُونَ

(Truly, Allah is with those who have Taqwa, and the doers of good.) meaning; He is with them in the sense of supporting them, helping them and guiding them. This is a special kind of "being with", as Allah says elsewhere:

إِذْ يُوحِي رَبُّكَ إِلَى الْمَلَائِكَةِ أَنِّي مَعَكُمْ فَثَبِّتُوا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا

((Remember) when your Lord revealed to the angels, "Verily, I am with you, so support those who believe.")(8:12) And Allah said to Musa and Harun:

لَا تَخَافَا ۖ إِنَّنِي مَعَكُمَا أَسْمَعُ وَأَرَىٰ

(Fear not, verily I am with you both, hearing and seeing.)[20:46] The Prophet ﷺ said to (Abu Bakr) As-Siddiq when they were in the cave:

لَا تَحْزَنْ إِنَّ اللهَ مَعَنَا

(Do not worry, Allah is with us.") The general kind of "being with" some one, or something is by means of seeing, hearing and knowing, as Allah says:

وَهُوَ مَعَكُمْ أَيْنَ مَا كُنتُمْ ۚ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ

(And He is with you wherever you may be. And Allah sees whatever you do.)[57:4]

أَلَمْ تَرَ أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ ۖ مَا يَكُونُ مِن نَّجْوَىٰ ثَلَاثَةٍ إِلَّا هُوَ رَابِعُهُمْ وَلَا خَمْسَةٍ إِلَّا هُوَ سَادِسُهُمْ وَلَا أَدْنَىٰ مِن ذَٰلِكَ وَلَا أَكْثَرَ إِلَّا هُوَ مَعَهُمْ أَيْنَ مَا كَانُوا

(Have you not seen that Allah knows whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth? There is no secret counsel of three but He is their fourth, - nor of five but He is their sixth, - nor of less than that or more, but He is with them wherever they may be.)(58:7)

وَمَا تَكُونُ فِي شَأْنٍ وَمَا تَتْلُو مِنْهُ مِن قُرْآنٍ وَلَا تَعْمَلُونَ مِنْ عَمَلٍ إِلَّا كُنَّا عَلَيْكُمْ شُهُودًا

(You will not be in any circumstance, nor recite any portion of the Qur'an, nor having done any deeds, but We are witnessing you.)(10:61)

الَّذِينَ اتَّقَوا

(those who have Taqwa) means, they keep away from that which is forbidden.

وَّالَّذِينَ هُم مُّحْسِنُونَ

(and the doers of good.) meaning they do deeds of obedience to Allah. These are the ones whom Allah takes care of, He gives them support, and helps them to prevail over their enemies and opponents.

This is end of the Tafsir of Surat An-Nahl. To Allah be praise and blessings, and peace and blessings be upon Muhammad and his family and Companions.