27:35

وَإِنِّي مُرۡسِلَةٌ إِلَيۡهِم بِهَدِيَّةٖ فَنَاظِرَةُۢ بِمَ يَرۡجِعُ ٱلۡمُرۡسَلُونَ

Wainnee mursilatun ilayhim bihadiyyatin fanathiratun bima yarjiAAu almursaloona

But indeed, I will send to them a gift and see with what [reply] the messengers will return."

Word by word
  1. وَإِنِّيBut indeed,I am
  2. مُرۡسِلَةٌgoing to send
  3. إِلَيۡهِمto them
  4. بِهَدِيَّةٖa gift
  5. فَنَاظِرَةُۢand see
  6. بِمَwith what
  7. يَرۡجِعُreturn
  8. ٱلۡمُرۡسَلُونَthe messengers
An-Naml · 27:35Makkah

She chose a gift and patience over a fight.

Testing whether he was a king or a prophet


Her plan
send a giftfitting his status
then
wait and seewhat the envoys bring
What the gift would show
accepts ithe is a king
refuses ithe is a prophet

Bilqis turned to peaceful means, seeking a truce. Qatadah praised her wisdom: she understood how gift-giving has a good effect on people. Ibn Abbas and others said she reasoned: if he accepts it he is a king; if not, he is a Prophet, so follow him.

The tension with your in-laws is building. You could text something sharp, or you could bring dessert on Friday and see. A gift and a pause can tell you more than a fight.

When someone pressures me, I must either fight or give in.

A gift and patience can lower tension and reveal what someone really wants.

Try this

Give a small gift to someone you are tense with this week.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 27:32)

She said: "O chiefs! Advise me in case of mine. I decide no case till you are present with me. (32)They said: "We have great strength, and great ability for war, but it is for you to command; so think over what you will command. (33)She said: "Verily, kings, when they enter a town, they destroy it and make the most honorable among its people the lowest. And thus they do. (34)"But verily, I am going to send him a present, and see with what (answer) the messengers return. (35)

Bilqis consults with Her Chiefs

When she read Sulayman's letter to them and consulted with them about this news, she said:

يَا أَيُّهَا الْمَلَأُ أَفْتُونِي فِي أَمْرِي مَا كُنْتُ قَاطِعَةً أَمْرًا حَتَّىٰ تَشْهَدُونِ

("O chiefs! Advise me in (this) case of mine. I decide no case till you are present with me.") meaning, 'until you come together and offer me your advice.'

قَالُوا نَحْنُ أُولُو قُوَّةٍ وَأُولُو بَأْسٍ شَدِيدٍ

(They said: "We have great strength, and great ability for war...")

They reminded her of their great numbers, preparedness and strength, then they referred the matter to her and said:

وَالْأَمْرُ إِلَيْكِ فَانْظُرِي مَاذَا تَأْمُرِينَ

(but it is for you to command; so think over what you will command.) meaning, 'we have the power and strength, if you want to go to him and fight him.' The matter is yours to decide, so instruct us as you see fit and we will obey. Ibn 'Abbas said: "Bilqis said:

إِنَّ الْمُلُوكَ إِذَا دَخَلُوا قَرْيَةً أَفْسَدُوهَا وَجَعَلُوا أَعِزَّةَ أَهْلِهَا أَذِلَّةً ۖ 

(Verily, kings, when they enter a town, they destroy it and make the most honorable amongst its people the lowest.) And Allah said:

وَكَذَٰلِكَ يَفْعَلُونَ

(And thus they do.) Then she resorted to peaceful means, seeking a truce and trying to placate Sulayman, and said:

وَإِنِّي مُرْسِلَةٌ إِلَيْهِمْ بِهَدِيَّةٍ فَنَاظِرَةٌ بِمَ يَرْجِعُ الْمُرْسَلُونَ 

(But verily, I am going to send him a present, and see with what the messengers return.) meaning, 'I will send him a gift befitting for one of his status, and will wait and see what his response will be. Perhaps he will accept that and leave us alone, or he will impose a tax which we can pay him every year, so that he will not fight us and wage war against us.' Qatadah said: "May Allah have mercy on her and be pleased with her – how wise she was as a Muslim and (before that) as an idolator! She understood how gift-giving has a good effect on people." Ibn 'Abbas and others said: "She said to her people, if he accepts the gift, he is a king, so fight him; but if he does not accept it, he is a Prophet, so follow him."