4:149

إِن تُبۡدُواْ خَيۡرًا أَوۡ تُخۡفُوهُ أَوۡ تَعۡفُواْ عَن سُوٓءٖ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوّٗا قَدِيرًا

In tubdoo khayran aw tukhfoohu aw taAAfoo AAan sooin fainna Allaha kana AAafuwwan qadeeran

If [instead] you show [some] good or conceal it or pardon an offense - indeed, Allah is ever Pardoning and Competent.

Word by word
  1. إِنIf
  2. تُبۡدُواْyou disclose
  3. خَيۡرًاa good
  4. أَوۡor
  5. تُخۡفُوهُyou conceal it
  6. أَوۡor
  7. تَعۡفُواْpardon
  8. عَن[of]
  9. سُوٓءٖan evil
  10. فَإِنَّthen indeed
  11. ٱللَّهَAllah
  12. كَانَis
  13. عَفُوّٗاOft-Pardoning
  14. قَدِيرًاAll-Powerful
An-Nisa · 4:149Madinah

Show good, hide good, or pardon. Allah pardons while able.

The higher road after being wronged


Three good choices
show good
hide good
pardon a wrong
like
Allahpardons though able
What pardoning costs
it makes me weakthey win
it raises youpardon only adds honor

Right after permitting the wronged to speak, the verse points higher. Ibn Kathir explains that forgiving those who wrong you brings you closer to Allah. Allah pardons even though He is fully able to punish. A hadith says Allah only increases the honor of one who pardons.

Your sister said something cruel at the family dinner a year ago. You have every right to stay angry. Holding it feels like strength. The verse offers another kind: letting go while you could hit back. That is how Allah treats you.

If I forgive, I am letting them off and looking weak.

Pardoning when I could retaliate is strength, and Allah raises me for it.

Try this

Pick one old hurt and say quietly: for Allah's sake, I let this go.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 4:148)

Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Knower (148)Whether you disclose a good deed or conceal it, or pardon an evil, verily, Allah is Ever Pardoning, All-Powerful (149)

The Permission to Utter Evil in Public, For One Who Was Wronged

Ali bin Abi Talhah said that Ibn 'Abbas commented on the Ayah,

لَّا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ

(Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public) "Allah does not like that any one should invoke Him against anyone else, unless one was wronged. In this case, Allah allows one to invoke Him against whoever wronged him. Hence Allah's statement,

إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَ

(except by him who has been wronged.) Yet, it is better for one if he observes patience." Al-Hasan Al-Basri commented, "One should not invoke Allah (for curses) against whoever wronged him. Rather, he should supplicate, 'O Allah! Help me against him and take my right from him.'" In another narration, Al-Hasan said, "Allah has allowed one to invoke Him against whoever wronged him without transgressing the limits."

'Abdul-Karim bin Malik Al-Jazari said about this Ayah; "When a man curses you, you could curse him in retaliation. But if he lies about you, you may not lie about him.

وَلَمَنِ انتَصَرَ بَعْدَ ظُلْمِهِ فَأُولَٰئِكَ مَا عَلَيْهِم مِّن سَبِيلٍ

(And indeed whosoever takes revenge after he has suffered wrong, for such there is no way (of blame) against them.)"

Abu Dawud recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

الـمُسْتَبَّانِ مَا قَالَا، فَعَلَى الْبَادِئ مِنْهُمَا مَا لَمْ يَعْتَدِ الْمَظْلُومُ

(Whatever words are uttered by those who curse each other, then he who started it will carry the burden thereof, unless the one who was wronged transgresses the limit.) Allah said,

إِن تُبْدُوا خَيْرًا أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ أَوْ تَعْفُوا عَن سُوءٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوًّا قَدِيرًا

(Whether you disclose a good deed, or conceal it, or pardon an evil; verily, Allah is Ever Pardoning, All-Powerful.) Meaning when you, mankind, admit to a good favor done to you, or conceal it, and forgive those who wrong you, then this will bring you closer to Allah and increase your reward with Him.

Among Allah's attributes is that He forgives and pardons His servants, although He is able to punish them. Hence Allah's statement,

فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوًّا قَدِيرًا

(Verily, Allah is Ever Pardoning, All-Powerful.) It was reported that some of the angels who carry Allah's Throne praise Him saying, "All praise is due to You for Your forbearing even though You have perfect knowledge (in all evil committed)." Some of them supplicate, "All praise is due to You for Your forgiving even though You have perfect ability (to punish)." An authentic Hadith states,

مَا نَقَصَ مَالٌ مِنْ صَدَقَةٍ، وَلَا زَادَ اللهُ عَبْدًا بِعَفْوٍ إِلَّا عِزًّا، وَمَنْ تَوَاضَعَ للهِ رَفَعَهُ اللهُ

(No charity shall ever decrease wealth, and Allah will only increase the honor of a servant who pardons, and he who is humble for Allah's sake, then Allah will elevate his grade.)