4:16

وَٱلَّذَانِ يَأۡتِيَٰنِهَا مِنكُمۡ فَـَٔاذُوهُمَاۖ فَإِن تَابَا وَأَصۡلَحَا فَأَعۡرِضُواْ عَنۡهُمَآۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ تَوَّابٗا رَّحِيمًا

Waallathani yatiyaniha minkum faathoohuma fain taba waaslaha faaAAridoo AAanhuma inna Allaha kana tawwaban raheeman

And the two who commit it among you, dishonor them both. But if they repent and correct themselves, leave them alone. Indeed, Allah is ever Accepting of repentance and Merciful.

Word by word
  1. وَٱلَّذَانِAnd the two who
  2. يَأۡتِيَٰنِهَاcommit it
  3. مِنكُمۡamong you
  4. فَـَٔاذُوهُمَاۖthen punish both of them
  5. فَإِنBut if
  6. تَابَاthey repent
  7. وَأَصۡلَحَاand correct themselves
  8. فَأَعۡرِضُواْthen turn away
  9. عَنۡهُمَآۗfrom both of them
  10. إِنَّIndeed
  11. ٱللَّهَAllah
  12. كَانَis
  13. تَوَّابٗاOft-Forgiving
  14. رَّحِيمًاMost-Merciful
An-Nisa · 4:16Madinah

If they turned back, stop reminding them.

Letting go after real repentance


The turn
a wrong doneserious, known
then
repent and reforma changed life
so
leave them beAllah accepts repentance
After someone repents
keep bringing it upnever let them forget
turn away from itas if there was no sin

Like the verse before, this was an early stage that later rulings replaced, and those details belong to scholars. What stays is the ending: if they repent and correct themselves, leave them alone. Ibn Kathir says do not abuse them with words after that, since one who truly repents is like one who has no sin.

A cousin who once went off the rails is now praying again. A friend who wronged you has changed. But at every family dinner, someone brings up the old story. The past gets used as a leash. If Allah is Accepting of repentance, who are you to keep the file open?

People who did something bad should never live it down.

If Allah accepts someone's repentance, I should stop holding their past over them.

Try this

Think of someone whose old mistake you still mention. Decide not to bring it up again.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 4:15)

And those of your women who commit illegal sexual intercourse, take the evidence of four witnesses from among you against them; and if they testify, confine them (i.e. women) to houses until death comes to them or Allah ordains for them some (other) way (15)And the two persons among you who commit illegal sexual intercourse, punish them both. And if they repent and do righteous good deeds, leave them alone. Surely, Allah is Ever the One Who accepts repentance, (and He is) Most Merciful (16)

The Adulteress is Confined in her House; A Command Later Abrogated

At the begining of Islam, the ruling was that if a woman commits adultery as stipulated by sufficient proof, she was confined to her home, without leave, until she died. Allah said,

وَاللَّاتِي يَأْتِينَ الْفَاحِشَةَ

يعني الزنا

مِن نِّسَائِكُمْ فَاسْتَشْهِدُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةً مِّنكُمْ فَإِن شَهِدُوا فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ فِي الْبُيُوتِ حَتَّىٰ يَتَوَفَّاهُنَّ الْمَوْتُ أَوْ يَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ لَهُنَّ سَبِيلًا

(And those of your women who commit illegal sexual intercourse, take the evidence of four witnesses from among you against them; and if they testify, confine them (i.e. women) to houses until death comes to them or Allah ordains for them some (other) way.)

'Some other way' mentioned here is the abrogation of this ruling that came later. Ibn 'Abbas said, "The early ruling was confinement, until Allah sent down Surat An-Nur (chapter 24) which abrogated that ruling with the ruling of flogging (for fornication) or stoning to death (for adultery)." Similar was reported from 'Ikrimah, Sa'id bin Jubayr, Al-Hasan, 'Ata' Al-Khurasani, Abu Salih, Qatadah, Zayd bin Aslam and Ad-Dahhak, and this is a matter that is agreed upon.

Imam Ahmad recorded that 'Ubadah bin As-Samit said, "When the revelation descended upon the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, it would affect him and his face would show signs of strain. One day, Allah sent down a revelation to him, and when the Messenger ﷺ was relieved of its strain, he said,

خُذُوا عَنِّي، قَدْ جَعَلَ اللهُ لَهُنَّ سَبِيلًا، الثَّيِّبُ بِالثَّيِّبِ، وَالْبِكْرُ بِالْبِكْرِ، الثَّــيِّبُ جَلْدُ مِائَةٍ، وَرَجْمٌ بِالْحِجَارَةِ، وَالْبِكْرُ جَلْدُ مِائَةٍ ثُمَّ نَفْيُ سَنَةٍ

(Take from me: Allah has made some other way for them. The married with the married, the unmarried with the unmarried. The married gets a hundred lashes and stoning to death, while the unmarried gets a hundred lashes then banishment for a year.)"

Muslim and the collectors of the Sunan recorded that 'Ubadah bin As-Samit said that the Prophet ﷺ said,

خُذُوا عَنِّي خُذُوا عَنِّي، قَدْ جَعَلَ اللهُ لَهُنَّ سَبِيلًا، الْبِكْرُ بِالْبِكْرِ جَلْدُ مِائَةٍ وَتَغْرِيبُ عَامٍ، وَالثَّيِّبُ بِالثَّيِّبِ جَلْدُ مِائَةٍ وَالرَّجْمُ

(Take from me, take from me. Allah has made some other way for them: the (unmarried) gets a hundred lashes and banishment for one year, while the (married) gets a hundred lashes and stoning to death.) At-Tirmidhi said, "Hasan Sahih".

Allah said,

وَاللَّذَانِ يَأْتِيَانِهَا مِنكُمْ فَآذُوهُمَا

(And the two persons among you who commit illegal sexual intercourse, punish them both.)

Ibn 'Abbas and Sa'id bin Jubayr said that this punishment includes cursing, shaming them and beating them with sandals. This was the ruling until Allah abrogated it with flogging or stoning, as we stated. Mujahid said, "It was revealed about the case of two men who do it." As if he was referring to the actions of the people of Lut, and Allah knows best.

The collectors of Sunan recorded that Ibn 'Abbas said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

مَنْ رَأَيْتُمُوهُ يَعْمَلُ عَمَلَ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ، فَاقْتُلُوا الْفَاعِلَ وَالْمَفْعُولَ بِهِ

(Whoever you catch committing the act of the people of Lut (homosexuality), then kill both parties to the act.) Allah said,

فَإِن تَابَا وَأَصْلَحَا 

(And if they repent and do righteous good deeds), by refraining from that evil act, and thereafter their actions become righteous,

فَأَعْرِضُوا عَنْهُمَا

(leave them alone), do not verbally abuse them after that, since he who truly repents is just like he who has no sin,

إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا

(Surely, Allah is Ever the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.) The following is recorded in the Two Sahihs:

إِذَا زَنَتْ أَمَةُ أَحَدِكُمْ، فَلْيَجْلِدْهَا الْحَدَّ، وَلَا يُثَرِّبْ عَلَيْهَا

(When the slave-girl of one of you commits illegal sexual intercouse, let him flog her and not chastise her afterwards.) because the lashes she receives erase the sin that she has committed.