4:32

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوۡاْ مَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بِهِۦ بَعۡضَكُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٖۚ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٞ مِّمَّا ٱكۡتَسَبُواْۖ وَلِلنِّسَآءِ نَصِيبٞ مِّمَّا ٱكۡتَسَبۡنَۚ وَسۡـَٔلُواْ ٱللَّهَ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦٓۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيۡءٍ عَلِيمٗا

Wala tatamannaw ma faddala Allahu bihi baAAdakum AAala baAAdin lilrrijali naseebun mimma iktasaboo walilnnisai naseebun mimma iktasabna waisaloo Allaha min fadlihi inna Allaha kana bikulli shayin AAaleeman

And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allah of his bounty. Indeed Allah is ever, of all things, Knowing.

Word by word
  1. وَلَاAnd (do) not
  2. تَتَمَنَّوۡاْcovet
  3. مَاwhat
  4. فَضَّلَ(has) bestowed
  5. ٱللَّهُAllah
  6. بِهِۦ[with it]
  7. بَعۡضَكُمۡsome of you
  8. عَلَىٰover
  9. بَعۡضٖۚothers
  10. لِّلرِّجَالِFor men
  11. نَصِيبٞ(is) a share
  12. مِّمَّاof what
  13. ٱكۡتَسَبُواْۖthey earned
  14. وَلِلنِّسَآءِand for women
  15. نَصِيبٞ(is) a share
  16. مِّمَّاof what
  17. ٱكۡتَسَبۡنَۚthey earned
  18. وَسۡـَٔلُواْAnd ask
  19. ٱللَّهَAllah
  20. مِنof
  21. فَضۡلِهِۦٓۚHis bounty
  22. إِنَّIndeed
  23. ٱللَّهَAllah
  24. كَانَis
  25. بِكُلِّof every
  26. شَيۡءٍthing
  27. عَلِيمٗاAll-Knower
An-Nisa · 4:32Madinah

Stop wishing for their portion. Ask Allah for yours.

From envy to asking


Umm Salamah's question
the mengo out, get more
and we
the womenwhat about us?
answered with
each earns their shareask Allah of His bounty
Where to turn the wish
if only I had theirsenvy, comparison
Allah, give me from Your bountyHe is Most Generous

Umm Salamah said to the Prophet ﷺ that men go out to battle and receive more inheritance, while women do not. The verse answered: do not wish for what Allah gave others over you. Each, man and woman, has a share of what they earned. Ibn Kathir paraphrases: wishing does not change the decree, so ask Me of My favor and I will grant it.

Your colleague's promotion. Your friend's wedding photos. Your sibling's easy life. You scroll and feel smaller with every post. The verse redirects the longing. Do not stare at their portion. Turn and ask Allah for good in yours.

Seeing what others have makes me feel I have been shortchanged.

My share is earned and known to Allah, and I can ask Him for more of His bounty.

Try this

When you next feel envy, stop and make a dua for that person and for yourself.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything (32)

Do Not Wish for the Things Which Allah has Made Some Others to Excel In

Imam Ahmad recorded that Umm Salamah said, "O Messenger of Allah! Men go to battle, but we do not go to battle, and we earn one-half of the inheritance (that men get)." Allah sent down,

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ

(And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others). At-Tirmidhi also recorded this Hadith. Allah's statement,

لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ

(For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned,) indicates, according to Ibn Jarir, that each person will earn his wages for his works, a reward if his deeds are good, and punishment if his deeds are evil.

It was also reported that this Ayah is talking about inheritance, indicating the fact that each person will get his due share of the inheritance, as Al-Walibi reported from Ibn 'Abbas. Allah then directed the servants to what benefits them,

وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّهَ مِن فَضْلِهِ

(and ask Allah of His Bounty.)Therefore, the Ayah states, "Do not wish for what other people were endowed with over you, for this is a decision that will come to pass, and wishing does not change its decree. However, ask Me of My favor and I will grant it to you, for I Am Most Generous and Most Giving." Allah then said,

إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا

(Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.) meaning, Allah knows who deserves this life, and so He gives him riches, and whoever deserves poverty, He makes him poor. He also knows who deserves the Hereafter, and He directs him to perform the deeds that will help him to be sucessful in it, and whoever deserves failure, He prevents him from achieving righteousness and what leads to it. Hence, Allah said,

إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا

(Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything).