9:43

عَفَا ٱللَّهُ عَنكَ لِمَ أَذِنتَ لَهُمۡ حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكَ ٱلَّذِينَ صَدَقُواْ وَتَعۡلَمَ ٱلۡكَٰذِبِينَ

AAafa Allahu AAanka lima athinta lahum hatta yatabayyana laka allatheena sadaqoo wataAAlama alkathibeena

May Allah pardon you, [O Muhammad]; why did you give them permission [to remain behind]? [You should not have] until it was evident to you who were truthful and you knew [who were] the liars.

Word by word
  1. عَفَا(May) Allah forgive
  2. ٱللَّهُ(May) Allah forgive
  3. عَنكَyou
  4. لِمَWhy (did)
  5. أَذِنتَyou grant leave
  6. لَهُمۡto them
  7. حَتَّىٰuntil
  8. يَتَبَيَّنَ(became) evident
  9. لَكَto you
  10. ٱلَّذِينَthose who
  11. صَدَقُواْwere truthful
  12. وَتَعۡلَمَand you knew
  13. ٱلۡكَٰذِبِينَthe liars
At-Tawbah · 9:43Madinah

Allah pardoned him before He asked him why.

The gentlest correction in the Quran


The order of the words
Allah pardon youcomes first
then
why did you permit?the question
so
truth seentruthful from liars
How to correct someone
blame first
kindness firstthen the point

When the hypocrites asked to stay home, the Prophet ﷺ gave them permission. This verse gently questioned it: had he waited, the truthful and the liars would have been clear. Awn said: have you heard a softer rebuke, beginning with forgiveness before blame?

Your child broke something. Your colleague made an error in the report. Before the "why did you...", start with warmth: "It's alright, may Allah make it easy." Then make your point.

To correct someone, I have to start with what they did wrong.

Even Allah's correction began with pardon. Mine can start with kindness.

Try this

The next time you need to correct someone today, open with a kind word first.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

May Allah forgive you. Why did you grant them leave, until those who told the truth were manifest to you, and you had known the liars (43)Those who believe in Allah and the Last Day, would not ask your leave to be exempted from fighting with their properties and their lives; and Allah is the All-Knower of those who have Taqwa (44)It is only those who believe not in Allah and the Last Day and whose hearts are in doubt that ask your leave. So in their doubts they waver (45)

Moderately criticizing the Prophet (ﷺ) for allowing the Hypocrites to stay behind

Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that 'Awn said, "Have you heard criticism softer than this, starting with forgiveness before criticism,

عَفَا اللَّهُ عَنكَ لِمَ أَذِنتَ لَهُمْ

(May Allah forgive you. Why did you grant them leave...)?" Muwarriq Al-'Ijli and others said similarly. Qatadah said, "Allah criticized him as you read here, then later revealed to him the permission to allow them to lag behind if he wants, in Surat An-Nur,

فَإِذَا اسْتَأْذَنُوكَ لِبَعْضِ شَأْنِهِمْ فَأْذَن لِّمَن شِئْتَ مِنْهُمْ

(So if they ask your permission for some affairs of theirs, give permission to whom you will of them)[24:62]."

Ata' Al-Khurasani said similarly. Mujahid said, "This Ayah was revealed about some people who said, 'Ask permission from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ [to stay behind], and whether he agrees, or disagrees, remain behind!'" Allah said,

حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكَ الَّذِينَ صَدَقُوا 

(...until those who told the truth were manifest to you), in reference to valid excuses,

وَتَعْلَمَ الْكَاذِبِينَ

(and you had known the liars)

Allah says, 'Why did you not refuse to give them permission to remain behind when they asked you, so that you know those who truly obey you and the liars, who were intent on remaining behind even if you do not give them permission to do so.

Allah asserts that none who believe in Allah and His Messenger ﷺ seek his permission to remain behind from fighting,

لَا يَسْتَأْذِنُكَ

(would not ask your leave), to stay behind from Jihad,

الَّذِينَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ أَن يُجَاهِدُوا بِأَمْوَالِهِمْ وَأَنفُسِهِمْ

(Those who believe in Allah and the Last Day, to be exempted from fighting with their properties and their lives.) because they consider Jihad an act of worship. This is why when Allah called them to perform Jihad, they obeyed and hasten to act in His obedience,

وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ بِالْمُتَّقِينَ - إِنَّمَا يَسْتَأْذِنُكَ

(and Allah is the All-Knower of those who have Taqwa. Those who ask your leave), to remain behind, without a valid excuse,

الَّذِينَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ 

(those who believe not in Allah and the Last Day), they do not hope for Allah's reward in the Hereafter for their good actions,

وَارْتَابَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ

(and whose hearts are in doubt), about the validity of what you brought them,

فَهُمْ فِي رَيْبِهِمْ يَتَرَدَّدُونَ

(so in their doubts they waver.)

They waver in doubt, taking one step forward and one step back. They do not have a firm stance in anything, for they are unsure and destroyed, neither belonging to these nor to those. Verily, those whom Allah misguides, will never find a way for themselves to guidance.