31:15

وَإِن جَٰهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰٓ أَن تُشۡرِكَ بِي مَا لَيۡسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلۡمٞ فَلَا تُطِعۡهُمَاۖ وَصَاحِبۡهُمَا فِي ٱلدُّنۡيَا مَعۡرُوفٗاۖ وَٱتَّبِعۡ سَبِيلَ مَنۡ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرۡجِعُكُمۡ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمۡ تَعۡمَلُونَ

Wain jahadaka AAala an tushrika bee ma laysa laka bihi AAilmun fala tutiAAhuma wasahibhuma fee alddunya maAAroofan waittabiAA sabeela man anaba ilayya thumma ilayya marjiAAukum faonabbiokum bima kuntum taAAmaloona

But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.

Word by word
  1. وَإِنBut if
  2. جَٰهَدَاكَthey strive against you
  3. عَلَىٰٓon
  4. أَنthat
  5. تُشۡرِكَyou associate partners
  6. بِيwith Me
  7. مَاwhat
  8. لَيۡسَnot
  9. لَكَyou have
  10. بِهِۦof it
  11. عِلۡمٞany knowledge
  12. فَلَاthen (do) not
  13. تُطِعۡهُمَاۖobey both of them
  14. وَصَاحِبۡهُمَاBut accompany them
  15. فِيin
  16. ٱلدُّنۡيَاthe world
  17. مَعۡرُوفٗاۖ(with) kindness
  18. وَٱتَّبِعۡand follow
  19. سَبِيلَ(the) path
  20. مَنۡ(of him) who
  21. أَنَابَturns
  22. إِلَيَّۚto Me
  23. ثُمَّThen
  24. إِلَيَّtowards Me
  25. مَرۡجِعُكُمۡ(is) your return
  26. فَأُنَبِّئُكُمthen I will inform you
  27. بِمَاof what
  28. كُنتُمۡyou used (to)
  29. تَعۡمَلُونَdo
Luqman · 31:15Makkah

Do not obey them in shirk, but stay kind to them.

Firm in faith, gentle with family


Sa'd and his mother
Sa'dhonoured his mother
her hunger strikeleave your religion
he answered
I will not leave itfor anything
Two things at once
obey or cut offonly two choices
do not obeyin shirk
stay kindrespect in this world

Sa'd bin Malik said this verse came about him. His mother refused to eat until he gave up Islam. He would not give it up, and she ate. The surah introduction says young converts were told: parents have high rights, but not when they pull you to shirk.

A family dinner where your choice is mocked again. You feel two pulls: give in, or walk out and stop calling. The verse holds both lines: do not give up your faith, and keep showing up with kindness.

If my family opposes my faith, I either give in or walk away.

I can stay firm on Allah and still be gentle with them.

Try this

Do one kind thing for a relative you disagree with, without bringing up the disagreement.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 31:13)

And when Luqman said to his son when he was advising him: "O my son! Join not in worship others with Allah. Verily, joining others in worship with Allah is a great Zulm (wrong) indeed. (13)And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years – give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination (14)But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do (15)

Luqman's Advice to His Son

Allah tells us how Luqman advised his son. His full name was Luqman bin 'Anqa' bin Sadun, and his son's name was Tharan, according to a saying quoted by As-Suhayli. Allah describes him in the best terms, and states that he granted him wisdom. Luqman advised his son, the closest and most beloved of all people to him, who deserved to be given the best of his knowledge. So, Luqman started by advising him to worship Allah Alone, and not to associate anything with Him. Then he warned him:

إِنَّ الشِّرْكَ لَظُلْمٌ عَظِيمٌ

(Verily, joining others in worship with Allah is a great Zulm (wrong) indeed.) meaning, it is the greatest wrong. Al-Bukhari recorded that 'Abdullah said: "When the Ayah

الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَلَمْ يَلْبِسُوا إِيمَانَهُمْ بِظُلْمٍ

(It is those who believe and confuse not their belief with Zulm)(6:82) was revealed, the Companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ were distressed by this, and said, 'Who among us does not confuse his belief with Zulm?' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ بِذَاكَ، أَلَا تَسْمَعُ إِلَى قَوْلِ لُقْمَانَ: يَا بُنَيَّ لَا تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ ۖ إِنَّ الشِّرْكَ لَظُلْمٌ عَظِيمٌ

(That is not what it means. Have you not heard what Luqman said: (O my son! Join not in worship others with Allah. Verily, joining others in worship with Allah is a great Zulm (wrong) indeed)?)" It was recorded by Muslim.

When Luqman advised his son to worship Allah Alone, he also told him to honor his parents. This is like the Ayah,

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ

(And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents)(17:23). These two things are often mentioned together in the Qur'an. Allah says here:

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ

(And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship,) Mujahid said: "The hardship of bearing the child." Qatadah said: "Exhaustion upon exhaustion." 'Ata' Al-Khurasani said: "Weakness upon weakness."

وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ

(and his weaning is in two years) means, after he is born, he is breastfed and weaned within two years. This is like the Ayah,

وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ ۖ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَنْ يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ ۚ 

(The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, for those who desire to complete the term of suckling)(2:233). On this basis, Ibn 'Abbas and other Imams understood that the shortest possible period of pregnancy was six months, because Allah says elsewhere:

وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْرًا

(and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months)(46:15). Allah mentions how the mother brings the child up, and how she gets tired and suffers stress from staying up with the child night and day, to remind the son of her previous kind treatment of him. This is like the Ayah,

 وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

(and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.")(17:24). Allah says here:

أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ 

(give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.) means, 'I will reward you most generously for that.'

وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ 

(But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not;) means, if they try hard to make you follow them in their religion, then do not accept that from them, but do not let that stop you from behaving with them in the world kindly, i.e. treating them with respect.

وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ

(and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience.) means, the believers.

ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُمْ بِمَا كُنْتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

(Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.) At-Tabarani recorded in Al-'Ishrah that Sa'd bin Malik said, "This Ayah,

وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ 

(But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not;) was revealed concerning me. I was a man who honored his mother, but when I became Muslim, she said: 'O Sa'd! What is this new thing I see you doing? Leave this religion of yours, or I will not eat or drink until I die, and people will say: Shame on you, for what you have done to me, and they will say that you have killed your mother.' I said, 'Do not do that, O mother, for I will not give up this religion of mine for anything.' She stayed without eating for one day and one night, and she became exhausted; then she stayed for another day and night without eating, and she became utterly exhausted. When I saw that, I said: 'O my mother, by Allah, even if you had one hundred souls and they were to depart one by one, I would not give up this religion of mine for anything, so if you want to, eat, and if you want to, do not eat.' So she ate."