12:8

إِذۡ قَالُواْ لَيُوسُفُ وَأَخُوهُ أَحَبُّ إِلَىٰٓ أَبِينَا مِنَّا وَنَحۡنُ عُصۡبَةٌ إِنَّ أَبَانَا لَفِي ضَلَٰلٖ مُّبِينٍ

Ith qaloo layoosufu waakhoohu ahabbu ila abeena minna wanahnu AAusbatun inna abana lafee dalalin mubeenin

When they said, "Joseph and his brother are more beloved to our father than we, while we are a clan. Indeed, our father is in clear error.

Word by word
  1. إِذۡWhen
  2. قَالُواْthey said
  3. لَيُوسُفُSurely Yusuf
  4. وَأَخُوهُand his brother
  5. أَحَبُّ(are) more beloved
  6. إِلَىٰٓto
  7. أَبِينَاour father
  8. مِنَّاthan we
  9. وَنَحۡنُwhile we
  10. عُصۡبَةٌ(are) a group
  11. إِنَّIndeed
  12. أَبَانَاour father
  13. لَفِي(is) surely in
  14. ضَلَٰلٖan error
  15. مُّبِينٍclear
Yusuf · 12:8Makkah

He loves them more than us, so Dad must be wrong.

How jealousy dresses itself up as fairness


The brothers' reasoning
Yusuf and Binyaminmore loved
versus
we, the groupmany and strong
so
father in errortheir false thought
What was really happening
this is unfairwe deserve more
envy talkingcalling itself justice

Ten brothers looked at Yusuf and his full brother Binyamin and decided their father was in clear error. They were many, and still they felt less loved. Ibn Kathir calls it their false thought.

Your sibling gets the call on her birthday, you get a text. Your colleague gets the praise in the meeting. The mind quickly writes a verdict: they are wrong, I am wronged. Jealousy rarely calls itself jealousy.

I am not jealous, I am just pointing out what is unfair.

When I feel less loved, my sense of fairness can be envy in disguise.

Try this

Notice one comparison you make today and say alhamdulillah for what you have instead.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 12:7)

Verily, in Yusuf and his brethren there were Ayat for those who ask (7)When they said: "Truly, Yusuf and his brother are dearer to our father than we, while we are 'Usbah (a group). Really, our father is in a plain error. (8)"Kill Yusuf or cast him out to some (other) land, so that the favor of your father may be given to you alone, and after that you will be righteous folk. (9)One from among them said: "Kill not Yusuf, but if you must do something, throw him down to the bottom of a well; he will be picked up by some caravan of travelers. (10)

There are Lessons to draw from the Story of Yusuf

Allah says that there are Ayat, lessons and wisdom to learn from the story of Yusuf and his brothers, for those who ask about their story and seek its knowledge. Surely, their story is unique and is worthy of being narrated.

إِذْ قَالُوا لَيُوسُفُ وَأَخُوهُ أَحَبُّ إِلَىٰ أَبِينَا مِنَّا

(When they said: "Truly, Yusuf and his brother are dearer to our father than we...") They swore, according to their false thoughts, that Yusuf and his brother Binyamin (Benjamin), Yusuf's full brother,

أَحَبُّ إِلَىٰ أَبِينَا مِنَّا وَنَحْنُ عُصْبَةٌ

(dearer to our father than we, while we are 'Usbah.) meaning, a group. Therefore, they thought, how can he love these two more than the group,

إِنَّ أَبَانَا لَفِي ضَلَالٍ مُّبِينٍ

(Really, our father is in a plain error.) because he preferred them and loved them more than us.

اقْتُلُوا يُوسُفَ أَوِ اطْرَحُوهُ أَرْضًا يَخْلُ لَكُمْ وَجْهُ أَبِيكُمْ

(Kill Yusuf or cast him out to some (other) land, so that the favor of your father may be given to you alone,) They said, 'Remove Yusuf, who competes with you for your father's love, from in front of your father's face so that his favor is yours alone. Either kill Yusuf or banish him to a distant land so that you are rid of his trouble and you alone enjoy the love of your father. '

وَتَكُونُوا مِن بَعْدِهِ قَوْمًا صَالِحِينَ

(and after that you will be righteous folk.), thus intending repentance before committing the sin,

قَالَ قَائِلٌ مِّنْهُمْ

(One from among them said...) Qatadah and Muhammad bin Ishaq said that he was the oldest among them and his name was Rubil (Reuben). As-Suddi said that his name was Yahudha (Judah). Mujahid said that it was Sham'un (Simeon) who said,

لَا تَقْتُلُوا يُوسُفَ

(Kill not Yusuf,), do not let your enmity and hatred towards him reach this level, of murder.

However, their plot to kill Yusuf would not have succeeded, because Allah the Exalted willed that Yusuf fulfill a mission that must be fulfilled and complete; he would receive Allah's revelation and become His Prophet. Allah willed Yusuf to be a powerful man in Egypt and govern it. Consequently, Allah did not allow them to persist in their intent against Yusuf, through Rubil's words and his advice to them that if they must do something, they should throw him down to the bottom of a well,

يَلْتَقِطْهُ بَعْضُ السَّيَّارَةِ

(he will be picked up by some caravan) of travelers passing by. This way, he said, you will rid yourselves of this bother without having to kill him,

إِن كُنتُمْ فَاعِلِينَ

(if you must do something,) meaning, if you still insist on getting rid of him. Muhammad bin Ishaq bin Yasar said, "They agreed to a particularly vicious crime that involved cutting the relation of the womb, undutiful treatment of parents, and harshness towards the young, helpless and sinless. It was also harsh towards the old and weak who have the rights of being respected, honored and appreciated, as well as, being honored with Allah and having parental rights on their offspring. They sought to separate the beloved father, who had reached old age and his bones became weak, yet had a high status with Allah, from his beloved young son, in spite of his weakness, tender age and his need of his father's compassion and kindness. May Allah forgive them, and indeed, He is the Most Merciful among those who have mercy, for they intended to carry out a "grave error." Ibn Abi Hatim collected this statement, from the route of Salamah bin Al-Fadl from Muhammad bin Ishaq.