80:7

وَمَا عَلَيۡكَ أَلَّا يَزَّكَّىٰ

Wama AAalayka alla yazzakka

And not upon you [is any blame] if he will not be purified.

Word by word
  1. وَمَاAnd not
  2. عَلَيۡكَupon you
  3. أَلَّاthat not
  4. يَزَّكَّىٰhe purifies himself
'Abasa · 80:7Makkah

His refusal is not your burden.

You deliver; guidance belongs to Allah


Who carries what
the messengerconveys the message
the proud manchooses to refuse
his choice is
his ownno blame on you
Responsibility
I must convince himat any cost
I must conveyAllah guides whom He wills

Ibn Kathir reads it as: you are not responsible for him if he does not attain purification. Allah commanded the Prophet ﷺ to warn the noble and the weak equally, and then Allah guides whomever He chooses.

You keep chasing one relative with long messages, hoping to change their mind, while your own kids get your leftover patience. Your job is to say it well and kindly. The result is not yours to carry.

If they do not change, it means I failed.

I am asked to convey and be fair. Guidance is in Allah's hands.

Try this

Let go of one argument you keep trying to win, and make dua for that person instead.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 80:1)

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

عَبَسَ وَتَوَلَّىٰ - أَن جَاءَهُ الْأَعْمَىٰ - وَمَا يُدْرِيكَ لَعَلَّهُ يَزَّكَّىٰ - أَوْ يَذَّكَّرُ فَتَنفَعَهُ الذِّكْرَىٰ - أَمَّا مَنِ اسْتَغْنَىٰ - فَأَنتَ لَهُ تَصَدَّىٰ - وَمَا عَلَيْكَ أَلَّا يَزَّكَّىٰ - وَأَمَّا مَن جَاءَكَ يَسْعَىٰ - وَهُوَ يَخْشَىٰ - فَأَنتَ عَنْهُ تَلَهَّىٰ - كَلَّا إِنَّهَا تَذْكِرَةٌ - فَمَن شَاءَ ذَكَرَهُ - فِي صُحُفٍ مُّكَرَّمَةٍ - مَّرْفُوعَةٍ مُّطَهَّرَةٍ - بِأَيْدِي سَفَرَةٍ - كِرَامٍ بَرَرَةٍ

(1. He frowned and turned away.)(2. Because there came to him the blind man.)(3. And how can you know that he might become pure?)(4. Or he might receive admonition, and the admonition might profit him?)(5. As for him who thinks himself self-sufficient,)(6. To him you attend;)(7. What does it matter to you if he will not become pure?)(8. But as for him who came to you running,)(9. And is afraid.)(10. Of him you are neglectful and divert your attention to another.)(11. Nay; indeed it is an admonition.)(12. So, whoever wills, let him pay attention to Him (it).)(13. In Records held in honor,)(14. Exalted, purified.)(15. In the hands of ambassadors (Safarah),)(16. Honorable and obedient.)

The Prophet (ﷺ) being reprimanded because He frowned at a Weak Man

More than one of the scholars of Tafsir mentioned that one day the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was addressing one of the great leaders of the Quraysh while hoping that he would accept Islam. While he was speaking in direct conversation with him, Ibn Umm Maktum came to him, and he was of those who had accepted Islam in its earliest days. He (Ibn Umm Maktum) then began asking the Messenger of Allah ﷺ about something, urgently beseeching him. The Prophet ﷺ hoped that the man would be guided, so he asked Ibn Umm Maktum to wait for a moment so he could complete his conversation. He frowned in the face of Ibn Umm Maktum and turned away from him in order to face the other man. Thus, Allah revealed,

عَبَسَ وَتَوَلَّىٰ - أَن جَاءَهُ الْأَعْمَىٰ - وَمَا يُدْرِيكَ لَعَلَّهُ يَزَّكَّى

(He frowned and turned away. Because there came to him the blind man. And how can you know that he might become pure?)

meaning, he may attain purification and cleanliness in his soul.

أَوْ يَذَّكَّرُ فَتَنفَعَهُ الذِّكْرَىٰ

(Or he might receive admonition, and the admonition might profit him?)

meaning, he may receive admonition and abstain from the forbidden.

أَمَّا مَنِ اسْتَغْنَىٰ - فَأَنتَ لَهُ تَصَدَّىٰ

(As for him who thinks himself self-sufficient. To him you attend;)

meaning, 'you face the rich person so that perhaps he may be guided.'

وَمَا عَلَيْكَ أَلَّا يَزَّكَّىٰ

(What does it matter to you if he will not become pure?)

meaning, 'you are not responsible for him if he does not attain purification.'

وَأَمَّا مَن جَاءَكَ يَسْعَىٰ - وَهُوَ يَخْشَىٰ

(But as for him who came to you running. And is afraid.)

meaning, 'he is seeking you and he comes to you so that he may be guided by what you say to him.'

فَأَنتَ عَنْهُ تَلَهَّىٰ

(Of him you are neglectful and divert your attention to another.)

meaning, 'you are too busy.' Here Allah commands His Messenger ﷺ to not single anyone out with the warning. Rather, he should equal warn the noble and the weak, the poor and the rich, the master and the slave, the men and the women, the young and the old. Then Allah will guide whomever He chooses to a path that is straight. He has the profound wisdom and the decisive proof.

Abu Ya'la and Ibn Jarir both recorded from 'A'ishah that she said about,

عَبَسَ وَتَوَلَّىٰ

(He frowned and turned away.) "This was revealed about Ibn Umm Maktum, the blind man. He came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and began saying, 'Guide me.' At the time the Messenger of Allah ﷺ had a man with him who was one of the great leaders of the idolators. So the Prophet ﷺ turned away from him (Ibn Umm Maktum) and faced the other man and said, "Do you think that there is a problem with what I am saying?" The man said, "No!" So it was about this that

عَبَسَ وَتَوَلَّىٰ

(He frowned and turned away.) was revealed."

At-Tirmirdhi recorded this Hadith but he did not mention that it was narrated by 'A'ishah. I say it is reported like this in Al-Muwatta' as well.

The Characteristics of the Qur'an

Allah says,

كَلَّا إِنَّهَا تَذْكِرَةٌ

(Nay; indeed it is an admonition.) meaning, this Surah, or this advice in conveying knowledge equally among people, whether they are of noble or low class. Qatadah and As-Suddi both said,

كَلَّا إِنَّهَا تَذْكِرَةٌ

(Nay; indeed it is an admonition.) "This means the Qur'an."

فَمَن شَاءَ ذَكَرَهُ

(So, whoever wills, let him pay attention to Him (it).)

meaning, so whoever wills, he remembers Allah in all of his affairs. The pronoun could also be understood to be referring to the revelation since the conversation is alluding to it.

Allah said:

فِي صُحُفٍ مُّكَرَّمَةٍ - مَّرْفُوعَةٍ مُّطَهَّرَةٍ

(In Records held in honor, exalted, purified.)

meaning, this Surah or this admonition. Both meanings are connected to each other. Actually, all of the Qur'an is in honored pages, meaning respected and revered.

مَّرْفُوعَةٍ

(exalted) meaning, elevated in status.

مُّطَهَّرَةٍ

(purified) meaning, from impurity, additions and deficiency.

Concerning Allah's statement,

بِأَيْدِي سَفَرَةٍ

(In the hands of ambassadors (Safarah),)

Ibn 'Abbas, Mujahid, Ad-Dahhak, and Ibn Zayd, all said, "These are the angels."

Al-Bukhari said, "Safarah (ambassadors) refers to the angels. They travel around rectifying matters between themselves. The angels when they descend with the revelation of Allah, bringing it like the ambassador who rectifies matters between people."

Allah said,

كِرَامٍ بَرَرَةٍ

(Honorable and obedient.) meaning, they are noble, handsome, and honorable in their creation. Their character and their deeds are righteous, pure and perfect. Here it should be noted that it is necessary for one who carries the Qur'an (i.e., the angel) to be following righteousness and guidance.

Imam Ahmad recorded from 'A'ishah that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

الَّذِي يَقْرَأُ الْقُرْآنَ وَهُوَ مَاهِرٌ بِهِ، مَعَ السَّفَرَةِ الْكِرَامِ الْبَرَرَةِ، وَالَّذِي يَقْرَؤُهُ وَهُوَ عَلَيْهِ شَاقٌّ، لَهُ أَجْرَانِ

(He who recites the Qur'an proficiently, will be with the noble, righteous, ambassador angels, and the one who recites it with difficulty will receive two rewards.)

This Hadith was reported by the group.