18:6

فَلَعَلَّكَ بَٰخِعٞ نَّفۡسَكَ عَلَىٰٓ ءَاثَٰرِهِمۡ إِن لَّمۡ يُؤۡمِنُواْ بِهَٰذَا ٱلۡحَدِيثِ أَسَفًا

FalaAAallaka bakhiAAun nafsaka AAala atharihim in lam yuminoo bihatha alhadeethi asafan

Then perhaps you would kill yourself through grief over them, [O Muhammad], if they do not believe in this message, [and] out of sorrow.

Word by word
  1. فَلَعَلَّكَThen perhaps you would (be)
  2. بَٰخِعٞthe one who kills
  3. نَّفۡسَكَyourself
  4. عَلَىٰٓover
  5. ءَاثَٰرِهِمۡtheir footsteps
  6. إِنif
  7. لَّمۡnot
  8. يُؤۡمِنُواْthey believe
  9. بِهَٰذَاin this
  10. ٱلۡحَدِيثِ[the] narration
  11. أَسَفًا(in) grief
Al-Kahf · 18:6Makkah

Do not destroy yourself grieving over their choice.

Caring for people without carrying their decisions


What was happening
the Prophet ﷺconveying the message
watches them
his peopleturning away
leaving
deep griefanger, sorrow, anxiety
Whose job is what
make them believeor break trying
convey the messagetheir choice is theirs

Allah consoles His Messenger ﷺ, who was hurting because his people would not believe. Qatadah said this grief was anger and sorrow, Mujahid said anxiety. The message, Ibn Kathir explains: just convey the Message, and whoever goes astray strays at his own loss.

Your brother keeps making the same bad choice. You lie awake rewriting the talk you will have with him. Your chest is tight every time his name lights up your phone. You can love him and still put down what is not yours to carry.

If they do not change, I have failed.

My job is to care and to speak well. The turning of hearts belongs to Allah.

Try this

Make one sincere dua for someone you worry about, then hand the result over to Allah in words.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir

Perhaps, you would kill yourself in grief, over their footsteps, because they believe not in this narration (6)Verily, we have made that which is on earth an adornment for it, in order that We may test which of them are best in deeds (7)And verily, We shall make all that is on it bare, dry soil (8)

Do not feel sorry because the Idolators do not believe

Allah consoles His Messenger ﷺ for his sorrow over the idoltors because they would not believe and keep away from him. He also said:

فَلَا تَذْهَبْ نَفْسُكَ عَلَيْهِمْ حَسَرَاتٍ

(So destroy not yourself in sorrow for them.)[35:8]

وَلَا تَحْزَنْ عَلَيْهِمْ

(And grieve not over them.)[16:127]

لَعَلَّكَ بَاخِعٌ نَّفْسَكَ أَلَّا يَكُونُوا مُؤْمِنِينَ

(It may be that you are going to kill yourself with grief, that they do not become believers.)[26:3] meaning, maybe you will destroy yourself with your grief over them. Allah says:

فَلَعَلَّكَ بَاخِعٌ نَّفْسَكَ عَلَىٰ آثَارِهِمْ إِن لَّمْ يُؤْمِنُوا بِهَٰذَا الْحَدِيثِ

(Perhaps, you would kill yourself in grief, over their footsteps, because they believe not in this narration.) meaning the Qur'an.

أَسَفًا

(in grief) Allah is saying, 'do not destroy yourself with regret.' Qatadah said: "killing yourself with anger and grief over them." Mujahid said: "with anxiety." These are synonymous, so the meaning is: 'Do not feel sorry for them, just convey the Message of Allah to them. Whoever goes the right way, then he goes the right way only for the benefit of himself. And whoever goes astray, then he strays at his own loss, so do not destroy yourself in sorrow for them.'

This World is the Place of Trial

Then Allah tells us that He has made this world a temporary abode,adorned with transient beauty,and He made it a place of trial,not a place of settlement. So He says:

إِنَّا جَعَلْنَا مَا عَلَى الْأَرْضِ زِينَةً لَّهَا لِنَبْلُوَهُمْ أَيُّهُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا

(Verily, we have made that which is on earth an adornment for it, in order that We may test which of them are best in deeds.) Abu Maslamah narrated from Abu Nadrah from Abu Sa'id that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

إِنَّ الدُّنْيَا حُلْوَةٌ خَضِرَةٌ، وَإِنَّ اللهَ مُسْتَخْلِفُكُمْ فِيهَا فَنَاظِرٌ مَاذَا تَعْمَلُونَ، فَاتَّقُوا الدُّنْيَا، وَاتَّقُوا النِّسَاءَ، فَإِنَّ أَوَّلَ فِتْنَةِ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ كَانَتْ فِي النِّسَاءِ

(This world is sweet and green, and Allah makes you generations succeeding one another, so He is watching what you will do. Beware of (the beguilements of) this world and beware of women, for the first affliction that Children of Israel suffered from was that of women.)

Then Allah tells us that this world will pass away and come to an end, as He says:

وَإِنَّا لَجَاعِلُونَ مَا عَلَيْهَا صَعِيدًا جُرُزًا

(And verily, We shall make all that is on it bare, dry soil.) means, 'after having adorned it, We will destroy it and make everything on it bare and dry, with no vegetation or any other benefit.'

Al-'Awfi reported from Ibn 'Abbas that this means everything on it would be wiped out and destroyed. Mujahid said: "a dry and barren plain." Qatadah said, "A plain on which there are no trees or vegetation."