4:63

أُوْلَـٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ يَعۡلَمُ ٱللَّهُ مَا فِي قُلُوبِهِمۡ فَأَعۡرِضۡ عَنۡهُمۡ وَعِظۡهُمۡ وَقُل لَّهُمۡ فِيٓ أَنفُسِهِمۡ قَوۡلَۢا بَلِيغٗا

Olaika allatheena yaAAlamu Allahu ma fee quloobihim faaAArid AAanhum waAAithhum waqul lahum fee anfusihim qawlan baleeghan

Those are the ones of whom Allah knows what is in their hearts, so turn away from them but admonish them and speak to them a far-reaching word.

Word by word
  1. أُوْلَـٰٓئِكَThose
  2. ٱلَّذِينَ(are) the ones who
  3. يَعۡلَمُknows
  4. ٱللَّهُAllah
  5. مَاwhat
  6. فِي(is) in
  7. قُلُوبِهِمۡtheir hearts
  8. فَأَعۡرِضۡso turn away
  9. عَنۡهُمۡfrom them
  10. وَعِظۡهُمۡand admonish them
  11. وَقُلand say
  12. لَّهُمۡto them
  13. فِيٓconcerning
  14. أَنفُسِهِمۡtheir souls
  15. قَوۡلَۢاa word
  16. بَلِيغٗاpenetrating
An-Nisa · 4:63Madinah

Allah knows the heart. Your job is the word that reaches it.

Leave the hidden to Allah, speak to the soul


Three instructions
turn asidedo not punish what is hidden
admonishwarn against the disease
a far-reaching wordspoken privatelyaimed at their inner self
Who handles what
I judge their heartsI know what they really mean
Allah knows heartsI owe them a sincere word

Allah tells His Prophet ﷺ that He knows what is in these people's hearts, so do not punish them for what is hidden. Instead, advise them and speak to them, between you and them, with effective words that might benefit them.

Your cousin says one thing at family dinners and another behind your back. You could expose him in the family group chat. Or you could leave his heart to Allah and, one evening, say something honest to him alone. A word meant to reach, not to win.

If I know someone is fake, I should call them out.

The hidden part belongs to Allah. My part is a private, sincere word that could help.

Try this

If you have been rehearsing a public callout, rewrite it as one kind, private sentence instead.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 4:60)

Have you not seen those (hyprocrites) who claim that they believe in that which has been sent down to you, and that which was sent down before you, and they wish to go for judgment (in their disputes) to the Taghut while they have been ordered to reject them. But Shaytan wishes to lead them far astray (60)And when it is said to them: "Come to what Allah has sent down and to the Messenger," you see the hypocrites turn away from you with aversion (61)How then, when a catastrophe befalls them because of what their hands have sent forth, they come to you swearing by Allah, "We meant no more than goodwill and conciliation! (62)They (hypocrites) are those of whom Allah knows what is in their hearts; so turn aside from them (do not punish them) but admonish them, and speak to them an effective word to reach their inner selves (63)

Referring to Other than the Qur'an and Sunnah for Judgment is Characteristic of Non-Muslims

Allah chastises those who claim to believe in what Allah has sent down to His Messenger ﷺ and to the earlier Prophets, yet they refer to other than the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger ﷺ for judgment in various disputes. It was reported that the reason behind revealing this Ayah was that a man from the Ansar and a Jew had a dispute, and the Jew said, "Let us refer to Muhammad to judge between us." However, the Muslim man said, "Let us refer to Ka'b bin Al-Ashraf (a Jew) to judge between us." It was also reported that the Ayah was revealed about some hypocrites who pretended to be Muslims, yet they sought to refer to the judgment of Jahiliyyah. Other reasons were also reported behind the revelation of the Ayah. However, the Ayah has a general meaning, as it chastises all those who refrain from referring to the Qur'an and Sunnah for judgment and prefer the judgment of whatever they chose of falsehood, which befits the description of Taghut here. This is why Allah said,

يُرِيدُونَ أَن يَتَحَاكَمُوا إِلَى الطَّاغُوتِ

(and they wish to go for judgment to the Taghut) until the end of the Ayah. Allah's statement,

يَصُدُّونَ عَنكَ صُدُودًا

(turn away from you with aversion) means, they turn away from you in arrogance, just as Allah described the polytheists,

وَإِذَا قِيلَ لَهُمُ اتَّبِعُوا مَا أَنزَلَ اللَّهُ قَالُوا بَلْ نَتَّبِعُ مَا وَجَدْنَا عَلَيْهِ آبَاءَنَا

(When it is said to them: "Follow what Allah has sent down." They say: "Nay! We shall follow what we found our fathers following.")[31:21] This is different from the conduct of the faithful believers, whom Allah describes as,

إِنَّمَا كَانَ قَوْلَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِذَا دُعُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ لِيَحْكُمَ بَيْنَهُمْ أَن يَقُولُوا سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا

(The only saying of the faithful believers, when they are called to Allah and His Messenger, to judge between them, is that they say: "We hear and we obey.")[24:51]

Chastising the Hypocrites

Chastising the hypocrites, Allah said,

فَكَيْفَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ بِمَا قَدَّمَتْ أَيْدِيهِمْ

(How then, when a catastrophe befalls them because of what their hands have sent forth,) meaning, how about it if they feel compelled to join you because of disasters that they suffer due to their sins, then they will be in need of you.

ثُمَّ جَاءُوكَ يَحْلِفُونَ بِاللَّهِ إِنْ أَرَدْنَا إِلَّا إِحْسَانًا وَتَوْفِيقًا

(They come to you swearing by Allah, "We meant no more than goodwill and conciliation!") apologizing and swearing that they only sought goodwill and reconciliation when they referred to other than the Prophet ﷺ for judgment, not that they believe in such alternative judgment, as they claim. Allah describes these people to us further in His statement,

فَتَرَى الَّذِينَ فِي قُلُوبِهِم مَّرَضٌ يُسَارِعُونَ فِيهِمْ يَقُولُونَ نَخْشَىٰ

(And you see those in whose hearts there is a disease (of hypocrisy), they hurry to their friendship, saying: "We fear")[5:52], until,

فَيُصْبِحُوا عَلَىٰ مَا أَسَرُّوا فِي أَنفُسِهِمْ نَادِمِينَ

(Then they will become regretful for what they have been keeping as a secret in themselves). [5:52]

At-Tabarani recorded that Ibn 'Abbas said, "Abu Barzah Al-Aslami used to be a soothsayer who judged between the Jews in their disputes. When some Muslims came to him to judge between them, Allah sent down,

أَلَمْ تَرَ إِلَى الَّذِينَ يَزْعُمُونَ أَنَّهُمْ آمَنُوا بِمَا أُنزِلَ إِلَيْكَ وَمَا أُنزِلَ مِن قَبْلِكَ

(Have you not seen those (hyprocrites) who claim that they believe in that which has been sent down to you, and that which was sent down before you), until,

إِنْ أَرَدْنَا إِلَّا إِحْسَانًا وَتَوْفِيقًا

("We meant no more than goodwill and conciliation!") Allah then said,

أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ يَعْلَمُ اللَّهُ مَا فِي قُلُوبِهِمْ

(They (hypocrites) are those of whom Allah knows what is in their hearts;)

These people are hypocrites, and Allah knows what is in their hearts and will punish them accordingly, for nothing escapes Allah's watch. Consequently, O Muhammad! Let Allah be sufficient for you in this regard, because He has perfect knowledge of their apparent and hidden affairs. This is why Allah said,

فَأَعْرِضْ عَنْهُمْ

(so turn aside from them (do not punish them)) meaning, do not punish them because of what is in their hearts.

وَعِظْهُمْ 

(but admonish them) means, advise them against the hypocrisy and evil that reside in their hearts,

وَقُل لَّهُمْ فِي أَنفُسِهِمْ قَوْلًا بَلِيغًا

(and speak to them an effective word to reach their inner selves) advise them, between you and them, using effective words that might benefit them.