24:59

وَإِذَا بَلَغَ ٱلۡأَطۡفَٰلُ مِنكُمُ ٱلۡحُلُمَ فَلۡيَسۡتَـٔۡذِنُواْ كَمَا ٱسۡتَـٔۡذَنَ ٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبۡلِهِمۡۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمۡ ءَايَٰتِهِۦۗ وَٱللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٞ

Waitha balagha alatfalu minkumu alhuluma falyastathinoo kama istathana allatheena min qablihim kathalika yubayyinu Allahu lakum ayatihi waAllahu AAaleemun hakeemun

And when the children among you reach puberty, let them ask permission [at all times] as those before them have done. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses; and Allah is Knowing and Wise.

Word by word
  1. وَإِذَاAnd when
  2. بَلَغَreach
  3. ٱلۡأَطۡفَٰلُthe children
  4. مِنكُمُamong you
  5. ٱلۡحُلُمَthe puberty
  6. فَلۡيَسۡتَـٔۡذِنُواْthen let them ask permission
  7. كَمَاas
  8. ٱسۡتَـٔۡذَنَasked permission
  9. ٱلَّذِينَthose who
  10. مِن(were) before them
  11. قَبۡلِهِمۡۚ(were) before them
  12. كَذَٰلِكَThus
  13. يُبَيِّنُAllah makes clear
  14. ٱللَّهُAllah makes clear
  15. لَكُمۡfor you
  16. ءَايَٰتِهِۦۗHis Verses
  17. وَٱللَّهُAnd Allah
  18. عَلِيمٌ(is) All-Knower
  19. حَكِيمٞAll-Wise
An-Nur · 24:59Madinah

When children grow up, their manners grow up too.

Reaching maturity means asking like the adults do


A child growing
young childasks at three times
reaches puberty
young adultasks like those before
because
Knowing, WiseAllah explains
What growing up includes
more freedom onlyno new duties
more respect tooasks as adults ask

Ibn Kathir explains that once children who used to ask at the three times reach puberty, they ask permission as the adults before them did, not only at those times. Allah ends again: this is how He makes the verses clear, and He is Knowing and Wise.

Your son is suddenly taller than you. He wants his own room, his own rules, his own phone password. This verse adds the other half of growing up: he knocks, too. Respect for privacy flows both ways once a child becomes an adult.

Growing up means getting more rights.

Growing up means taking on the manners of adults, including asking first.

Try this

If you have a teenager, talk with them today about knocking and privacy, both ways.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 24:58)

O you who believe! Let your slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission on three occasions: before the Fajr prayer, and while you put off your clothes during the afternoon, and after the 'Isha' prayer. (These) three (times) are of privacy for you; other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending to each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise (58)And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age) ask permission. Thus Allah makes clear His Ayat for you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise (59)And the Qawa'id among women who do not hope for marriage, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain is better for them. And Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower (60)

The Times When Servants and Young Children Should Seek Permission to Enter

These Ayat include a discussion of how people who are closely related should seek permission to enter upon one another. What was mentioned earlier in the Surah had to do with how unrelated people should seek permission to enter upon one another. Allah commanded the believers to ensure that their servants and their children who have not yet reached puberty should seek permission at three times: the first is before the Fajr prayer, because people are asleep in their beds at that time.

وَحِينَ تَضَعُونَ ثِيَابَكُم مِّنَ الظَّهِيرَةِ

(and while you put off your clothes during the afternoon,) means, at the time of rest, because a man may be in a state of undress with his wife at that time.

وَمِن بَعْدِ صَلَاةِ الْعِشَاءِ

(and after the 'Isha' prayer.) because this is the time for sleep. Servants and children are commanded not to enter upon household members at these times, because it is feared that a man may be in an intimate situation with his wife and so on. Allah says:

ثَلَاثُ عَوْرَاتٍ لَّكُمْ ۚ لَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَلَا عَلَيْهِمْ جُنَاحٌ بَعْدَهُنَّ

((These) three (times) are of privacy for you; other than these times there is no sin on you or on them)

If they enter at a time other than these, there is no sin on you if you let them enter, and no sin on them if they see something at a time other than these times. They have been given permission to enter suddenly, because they are those who go around in the house, i.e., to serve you etc., and as such they may be forgiven for things that others will not be forgiven. Although this Ayah is quite clear and has not been abrogated, people hardly follow it, and 'Abdullah bin 'Abbas denounced the people for that.

Abu Dawud recorded that Ibn 'Abbas said: "Most of the people do not follow it, the Ayah that speaks about asking permission, but I tell my servant woman to seek permission to enter." Abu Dawud said: 'Ata' also narrated that Ibn 'Abbas commanded this. Ath-Thawri narrated that Musa bin Abi 'A'ishah said, "I asked Ash-Sha'bi [about the Ayah]:

لِيَسْتَأْذِنكُمُ الَّذِينَ مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ

(Let your slaves and slave-girls ask your permission.) He said, 'It has not been abrogated.' I said: 'But the people do not do that.' He said, 'May Allah help them.'" Then Allah says:

وَإِذَا بَلَغَ الْأَطْفَالُ مِنكُمُ الْحُلُمَ فَلْيَسْتَأْذِنُوا كَمَا اسْتَأْذَنَ الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِهِمْ

(And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age)) meaning: when the children who used to seek permission at the three times of privacy reach puberty, then they have to seek permission at all times, i.e., with regard to those who are non-relatives, and at times when a man may be in a state of intimacy with his wife, even if it is not one of the three times stated above.

There Is No Sin on Elderly Women If They Do Not Wear a Cloak

وَالْقَوَاعِدُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ

(And the Qawa'id among women.) Sa'id bin Jubayr, Muqatil bin Hayyan, Ad-Dahhak and Qatadah said that these are the women who no longer think that they can bear children,

اللَّاتِي لَا يَرْجُونَ نِكَاحًا

(who do not hope for marriage,) meaning, they no longer have any desire for marriage,

فَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِنَّ جُنَاحٌ أَن يَضَعْنَ ثِيَابَهُنَّ غَيْرَ مُتَبَرِّجَاتٍ بِزِينَةٍ

(it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment.) meaning, they do not have to cover themselves in the same way that other women have to. Abu Dawud recorded that Ibn 'Abbas said that the Ayah:

وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ

(And tell the believing women to lower their gaze)[24:31] was abrogated and an exception was made in the case of:

وَالْقَوَاعِدُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ اللَّاتِي لَا يَرْجُونَ نِكَاحًا

(the past childbearing among women who do not hope for marriage,)

فَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِنَّ جُنَاحٌ أَن يَضَعْنَ ثِيَابَهُنَّ

(it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing) Ibn Mas'ud said about (outer) clothing,, "The Jilbab or Rida'." A similar view was also narrated from Ibn 'Abbas, Ibn 'Umar, Mujahid, Sa'id bin Jubayr, Abu Ash-Sha'tha', Ibrahim An-Nakha'i, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, Az-Zuhri, Al-'Awza'i and others.

غَيْرَ مُتَبَرِّجَاتٍ بِزِينَةٍ

(in such a way as not to show their adornment.) Sa'id bin Jubayr said, "They should not make a wanton display of themselves by removing their outer garment so that their adornment may be seen."

وَأَن يَسْتَعْفِفْنَ خَيْرٌ لَّهُنَّ

(But to refrain is better for them.) means, not removing their outer garment, even though that is permissible for them, is better for them.

وَاللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

(And Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower.)