20:44

فَقُولَا لَهُۥ قَوۡلٗا لَّيِّنٗا لَّعَلَّهُۥ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوۡ يَخۡشَىٰ

Faqoola lahu qawlan layyinan laAAallahu yatathakkaru aw yakhsha

And speak to him with gentle speech that perhaps he may be reminded or fear [Allah]."

Word by word
  1. فَقُولَاAnd speak
  2. لَهُۥto him
  3. قَوۡلٗاa word
  4. لَّيِّنٗاgentle
  5. لَّعَلَّهُۥperhaps he
  6. يَتَذَكَّرُmay take heed
  7. أَوۡor
  8. يَخۡشَىٰfear
Taha · 20:44Makkah

Speak gently, even to Pharaoh.

Soft words for the hardest heart


Who speaks to whom
Musafriend of Allah
speaks gently to
Pharaohmost arrogant of people
How to call someone
harsh truthhe deserves it
soft speechperhaps he will remember

Ibn Kathir calls this a great lesson. Pharaoh was the most insolent of people, and Musa the friend of Allah, yet Musa was told to speak with gentle, soft, easy speech, like a close friend, so the message would reach deeper.

Your brother stopped praying years ago. You are tempted to send a sharp message full of warnings. If Pharaoh was owed gentleness, your brother is owed far more of it.

When someone is very wrong, I have to be harsh with them.

Allah told Musa to be gentle with Pharaoh. Gentleness is how a message gets in.

Try this

Rewrite one message you were going to send to someone you disagree with, in softer words.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 20:40)

"When your sister went and said: 'Shall I show you one who will nurse him' So We restored you to your mother, that she might cool her eyes and she should not grieve. Then you did kill a man, but We saved you from great distress and tried you with a heavy trial.", Then you stayed a number of years with the people of Madyan. Then you came here according to the fixed term which I ordained (for you), O Musa (40)And I have chosen you for Myself (41)Go you and your brother with My Ayat, and do not, you both, slacken and become weak in My remembrance (42)Go both of you to Fir'awn, verily, he has transgressed (43)And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah)(44)

Choosing Musa to go to Fir'awn and to be Soft and Gentle in His Invitation

Allah, the Exalted, says in His address to Musa that he had lived among the people of Madyan, avoiding Fir'awn and his chiefs. He worked as a shepherd for his father-in-law until the appointed time for his work ended. Then he met the decree of Allah and His predetermined will, without him having any set appointment. This entire situation was under the control of Allah, Blessed be He, the Most High. He compels His servants and His creatures to whatever end He wills. This is why Allah says,

ثُمَّ جِئْتَ عَلَىٰ قَدَرٍ يَا مُوسَىٰ

(Then You came here according to the fixed term which I ordained (for you), O Musa!) Mujahid said, "For a set appointment." 'Abdur-Razzaq recorded that Ma'mar reported from Qatadah that he said,

ثُمَّ جِئْتَ عَلَىٰ قَدَرٍ يَا مُوسَىٰ

(Then You came here according to the fixed term which I ordained (for you), O Musa!) "For the decree of messengership and prophethood." Concerning Allah's statement,

وَاصْطَنَعْتُكَ لِنَفْسِي

(And I have chosen you for Myself.) This means, "I have chosen you and selected you to be a Messenger for Myself. This is as I wish and according to My will." Concerning the Tafsir of this Ayah, Al-Bukhari recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

الْتَقَى آدَمُ وَمُوسَىٰ فَقَالَ مُوسَىٰ: أَنْتَ الَّذِي أَشْقَيْتَ النَّاسَ وَأَخْرَجْتَهُمْ مِنَ الْجَنَّةِ، فَقَالَ آدَمُ: وَأَنْتَ الَّذِي اصْطَفَاكَ اللهُ بِرِسَالَتِهِ وَاصْطَفَاكَ لِنَفْسِهِ، وَأَنْزَلَ عَلَيْكَ التَّوْرَاةَ؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: فَوَجَدْتَهُ مَكْتُوبًا عَلَيَّ قَبْلَ أَنْ يَخْلُقَنِي؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ، فَحَجَّ آدَمُ مُوسَىٰ

(Adam and Musa met, and Musa said, "You are the one who made things difficult for mankind and you caused them to be evicted from Paradise." Adam said, "Are you the one whom Allah chose for His Message, and He selected you for Himself and He revealed the Tawrah to you?" Musa replied, "Yes." Then Adam said, "Did you find that it was preordained upon me before He (Allah) created me?" Musa replied, "Yes." Therefore, Adam defeated Musa's argument.) Both Al-Bukhari and Muslim recorded this narration. Concerning Allah's statement,

اذْهَبْ أَنتَ وَأَخُوكَ بِآيَاتِي

(Go you and your brother with My Ayat,) This means with My proofs, evidences and miracles.

وَلَا تَنِيَا فِي ذِكْرِي

(And do not, you both, slacken and become weak in My remembrance.) 'Ali bin Abi Talhah related from Ibn 'Abbas that he said, "This means do not be slow." Mujahid reported that Ibn 'Abbas said, "This means do not be weak." The meaning here is that they should not slacken in the remembrance of Allah. Rather, they both should remember Allah during their meeting with Fir'awn so that the remembrance of Allah can be an aid for them against him. The remembrance of Allah would be their strength and their power that would defeat him. Allah's statement;

اذْهَبَا إِلَىٰ فِرْعَوْنَ إِنَّهُ طَغَىٰ

(Go both of you to Fir'awn, Verily, he has transgressed.) means that he has rebelled and become haughty and insolent against Allah and he has disobeyed Him.

فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

(And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah).) This Ayah contains a great lesson. Even though Fir'awn was the most insolent and arrogant of people and Musa was the friend of Allah among His creation at that time, Musa was still commanded to speak to Fir'awn with mildness and softness. Therefore, their invitation to him was with gentle, soft and easy speech that is used by one who is a close friend. This is so that the message may have more effect on the souls, and so it would have deeper and more beneficial results. This is as Allah, the Exalted, says,

ادْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ ۖ وَجَادِلْهُم بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ

(Invite (mankind) to the way of your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better.)(16:125) Concerning Allah's statement,

لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

(perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah).) This means that perhaps he will recant from that which he is in of misguidance and destruction,

أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

(or he will fear) meaning that he will become obedient due to fear of Allah. This is as Allah says,

لِّمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يَذَّكَّرَ أَوْ أَرَادَ شُكُورًا

(For such who desires to remember or desires to show his gratitude.)[25:62] Thus, to remember means to recant from that which is dangerous, and fear means to attain obedience.