12:84

وَتَوَلَّىٰ عَنۡهُمۡ وَقَالَ يَـٰٓأَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ وَٱبۡيَضَّتۡ عَيۡنَاهُ مِنَ ٱلۡحُزۡنِ فَهُوَ كَظِيمٞ

Watawalla AAanhum waqala ya asafa AAala yoosufa waibyaddat AAaynahu mina alhuzni fahuwa katheemun

And he turned away from them and said, "Oh, my sorrow over Joseph," and his eyes became white from grief, for he was [of that] a suppressor.

Word by word
  1. وَتَوَلَّىٰAnd he turned away
  2. عَنۡهُمۡfrom them
  3. وَقَالَand said
  4. يَـٰٓأَسَفَىٰAlas,my grief
  5. عَلَىٰover
  6. يُوسُفَYusuf
  7. وَٱبۡيَضَّتۡAnd became white
  8. عَيۡنَاهُhis eyes
  9. مِنَfrom
  10. ٱلۡحُزۡنِthe grief
  11. فَهُوَand he (was)
  12. كَظِيمٞa suppressor
Yusuf · 12:84Makkah

Oh, my sorrow for Yusuf, and his eyes turned white.

A new grief opened the old one


Ya'qub's grief
new lossBinyamin taken
reopens
old lossYusuf, years ago
held in
suppressedno complaint to people
Patience and tears
patience means no tearsbe strong, do not cry
tears and patienceboth in a prophet

Ya'qub turned away from his sons and said: oh, my sorrow for Yusuf. Ibn Kathir says the new grief renewed the old one. His eyes went white from crying. Qatadah said he held in his sorrow and did not complain to any created being.

Years after your father died, a song in the supermarket and you are in tears again. You feel weak. A prophet wept until his eyes went white, and he was still patient. Grief is not a failure of faith.

If I still cry about it, my faith must be weak.

Tears and patience can live in the same heart, even a prophet's.

Try this

Let yourself feel one grief today, then tell it to Allah in a few honest words.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 12:83)

He [Ya'qub] said: "Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me). May be Allah will bring them (back) all to me. Truly, He! Only He is All-Knowing, All-Wise. (83)And he turned away from them and said: "Alas, my grief for Yusuf!" And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing (84)They said: "By Allah! You will never cease remembering Yusuf until you become weak with old age, or until you be of the dead. (85)He said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you know not. (86)

Allah's Prophet Ya'qub receives the Grievous News

Allah's Prophet Ya'qub repeated to his children the same words he said to them when they brought false blood on Yusuf's shirt,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) Muhammad bin Ishaq said, "When they went back to Ya'qub and told him what happened, he did not believe them and thought that this was a repetition of what they did to Yusuf. So he said,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) Some said that since this new development came after what they did before [to Yusuf], they were given the same judgement to this later incident that was given to them when they did what they did [to Yusuf]. Therefore, Ya'qub's statement here is befitting,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) He then begged Allah to bring back his three sons: Yusuf, Binyamin and Rubil to him." Rubil had remained in Egypt awaiting Allah's decision about his case, either his father's permission ordering him to go back home, or to secure the release of his brother in confidence. This is why Ya'qub said,

عَسَى اللَّهُ أَن يَأْتِيَنِي بِهِمْ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْعَلِيمُ

(May be Allah will bring them (back) all to me. Truly, He! Only He is All-Knowing,), in my distress,

الْحَكِيمُ

(the All-Wise), in His decisions and the decree and preordainment He appoints. Allah said next,

وَتَوَلَّىٰ عَنْهُمْ وَقَالَ يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ

(And he turned away from them and said: "Alas, my grief for Yusuf!") He turned away from his children and remembered his old grief for Yusuf,

يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ

(Alas, my grief for Yusuf!) The new grief, losing Binyamin and Rubil, renewed his old sadness that he kept to himself. 'Abdur-Razzaq narrated that Ath-Thawri said that Sufyan Al-'Usfuri said that Sa'id bin Jubayr said, "Only this nation [the following of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ] were given Al-Istirja' [saying: 'To Allah we belong and to Him shall be our return']. Have you not heard the statement of Ya'qub, peace be upon him,

يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ وَابْيَضَّتْ عَيْنَاهُ مِنَ الْحُزْنِ فَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ

("Alas, my grief for Yusuf !" And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing.)?" Ya'qub suppressed his sorrow and did not complain to a created being, according to Qatadah and other scholars. Ad-Dahhak also commented, "Ya'qub was aggrieved, sorrowful and sad."

Ya'qub's children felt pity for him and said, while feeling sorrow and compassion,

تَاللَّهِ تَفْتَأُ تَذْكُرُ يُوسُفَ

(By Allah! You will never cease remembering Yusuf), 'you will keep remembering Yusuf,

حَتَّىٰ تَكُونَ حَرَضًا

(until you become weak with old age,), until your strength leaves you,'

أَوْ تَكُونَ مِنَ الْهَالِكِينَ

(or until you be of the dead.) They said, 'if you continue like this, we fear for you that you might die of grief,'

قَالَ إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَثِّي وَحُزْنِي إِلَى اللَّهِ

(He said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah.") When they said these words to him, Ya'qub said,

إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَثِّي وَحُزْنِي

(I only complain of my grief and sorrow) for the afflictions that struck me,

إِلَى اللَّهِ

(to Allah,) alone,

وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

(and I know from Allah that which you know not.) I anticipate from Allah each and every type of goodness.' Ibn 'Abbas commented on the meaning of,

وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

(and I know from Allah that which you know not.) "The vision that Yusuf saw is truthful and Allah will certainly make it come true."