12:85

قَالُواْ تَٱللَّهِ تَفۡتَؤُاْ تَذۡكُرُ يُوسُفَ حَتَّىٰ تَكُونَ حَرَضًا أَوۡ تَكُونَ مِنَ ٱلۡهَٰلِكِينَ

Qaloo taAllahi taftao tathkuru yoosufa hatta takoona haradan aw takoona mina alhalikeena

They said, "By Allah, you will not cease remembering Joseph until you become fatally ill or become of those who perish."

Word by word
  1. قَالُواْThey said
  2. تَٱللَّهِBy Allah
  3. تَفۡتَؤُاْyou will not cease
  4. تَذۡكُرُremembering
  5. يُوسُفَYusuf
  6. حَتَّىٰuntil
  7. تَكُونَyou become
  8. حَرَضًاfatally ill
  9. أَوۡor
  10. تَكُونَbecome
  11. مِنَof
  12. ٱلۡهَٰلِكِينَthose who perish
Yusuf · 12:85Makkah

You will grieve yourself to death, his sons said.

Worry from people who do not understand


The sons' fear
the sonspity and worry
say
stop rememberingor it will finish you
What they missed
let him goforget Yusuf
his hopestill alive in the grief

Ibn Kathir says the sons felt pity for him and spoke out of sorrow: by Allah, you will not stop remembering Yusuf until your strength leaves you or you die. They feared he would die of grief.

Your friends say: it has been a year, you need to move on. Your family worries you are stuck. They mean well. But remembering someone you love with hope is not the same as being lost.

If I keep remembering them, I am not healing.

Others may worry about my grief, but remembering with hope is not giving up.

Try this

Thank one person who worries about you, and share one thing that gives you hope.

Simplified reflection. Read the tafsir for scholarship.draft
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (shared passage from 12:83)

He [Ya'qub] said: "Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me). May be Allah will bring them (back) all to me. Truly, He! Only He is All-Knowing, All-Wise. (83)And he turned away from them and said: "Alas, my grief for Yusuf!" And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing (84)They said: "By Allah! You will never cease remembering Yusuf until you become weak with old age, or until you be of the dead. (85)He said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you know not. (86)

Allah's Prophet Ya'qub receives the Grievous News

Allah's Prophet Ya'qub repeated to his children the same words he said to them when they brought false blood on Yusuf's shirt,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) Muhammad bin Ishaq said, "When they went back to Ya'qub and told him what happened, he did not believe them and thought that this was a repetition of what they did to Yusuf. So he said,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) Some said that since this new development came after what they did before [to Yusuf], they were given the same judgement to this later incident that was given to them when they did what they did [to Yusuf]. Therefore, Ya'qub's statement here is befitting,

بَلْ سَوَّلَتْ لَكُمْ أَنفُسُكُمْ أَمْرًا ۖ فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ

(Nay, but your own selves have beguiled you into something. So patience is most fitting (for me).) He then begged Allah to bring back his three sons: Yusuf, Binyamin and Rubil to him." Rubil had remained in Egypt awaiting Allah's decision about his case, either his father's permission ordering him to go back home, or to secure the release of his brother in confidence. This is why Ya'qub said,

عَسَى اللَّهُ أَن يَأْتِيَنِي بِهِمْ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْعَلِيمُ

(May be Allah will bring them (back) all to me. Truly, He! Only He is All-Knowing,), in my distress,

الْحَكِيمُ

(the All-Wise), in His decisions and the decree and preordainment He appoints. Allah said next,

وَتَوَلَّىٰ عَنْهُمْ وَقَالَ يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ

(And he turned away from them and said: "Alas, my grief for Yusuf!") He turned away from his children and remembered his old grief for Yusuf,

يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ

(Alas, my grief for Yusuf!) The new grief, losing Binyamin and Rubil, renewed his old sadness that he kept to himself. 'Abdur-Razzaq narrated that Ath-Thawri said that Sufyan Al-'Usfuri said that Sa'id bin Jubayr said, "Only this nation [the following of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ] were given Al-Istirja' [saying: 'To Allah we belong and to Him shall be our return']. Have you not heard the statement of Ya'qub, peace be upon him,

يَا أَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ وَابْيَضَّتْ عَيْنَاهُ مِنَ الْحُزْنِ فَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ

("Alas, my grief for Yusuf !" And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing.)?" Ya'qub suppressed his sorrow and did not complain to a created being, according to Qatadah and other scholars. Ad-Dahhak also commented, "Ya'qub was aggrieved, sorrowful and sad."

Ya'qub's children felt pity for him and said, while feeling sorrow and compassion,

تَاللَّهِ تَفْتَأُ تَذْكُرُ يُوسُفَ

(By Allah! You will never cease remembering Yusuf), 'you will keep remembering Yusuf,

حَتَّىٰ تَكُونَ حَرَضًا

(until you become weak with old age,), until your strength leaves you,'

أَوْ تَكُونَ مِنَ الْهَالِكِينَ

(or until you be of the dead.) They said, 'if you continue like this, we fear for you that you might die of grief,'

قَالَ إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَثِّي وَحُزْنِي إِلَى اللَّهِ

(He said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah.") When they said these words to him, Ya'qub said,

إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَثِّي وَحُزْنِي

(I only complain of my grief and sorrow) for the afflictions that struck me,

إِلَى اللَّهِ

(to Allah,) alone,

وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

(and I know from Allah that which you know not.) I anticipate from Allah each and every type of goodness.' Ibn 'Abbas commented on the meaning of,

وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

(and I know from Allah that which you know not.) "The vision that Yusuf saw is truthful and Allah will certainly make it come true."